Many loved ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder need to unhook from what has become a toxic relational dynamic. A relational dynamic and experience that threatens non borderlines with a loss of self that often leads them not only to be stressed out but also to become more reactionary and in some ways mirror the behaviour of the person in their lives with BPD.
I am someone who is a life coach and who works with many loved ones – non borderlines – who've just lost a relationship, been left by the borderline, or are contemplating their own needs and whether or not they need to end a significant other relationship or go no contact with a family member with BPD.
I recently spoke to a group of loved ones of those with BPD – non borderlines – all of whom are either in the process of going no contact, have been left by the borderline, have just ended a relationship, or who are in the process of ending a relationship.
This video is an excerpt from that entire talk and you the rest of the talk is available for purchase in either video or audio format at Phoenix Rising Publications
I come at this from the perspective of my own first-hand experience on the other side of 2 people that were in my life who had BPD/NPD. I had a parent with BPD/NPD and had a partner who is an ex now with BPD/NPD. I also have the unique understanding of having had BPD and recovered from it 14 years ago along with having worked as a Life Coach and a Mental Health Coach for 6 years now.