Are you a codependent? Are you in a painful relationship? Are you a person who comes from a toxic or somewhat dysfunctional family of origin with a parent or parents with Borderline Personality Disorder that you are trying to help/rescue? (BPD) Or someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), or someone with Anti Social Personality Disorder (ASPD), addictions, or who, is no matter what else, emotionally unavailable and/or needy? Do you feel like you have to please others in order to feel respected, cared for or about or to feel worthy of their love? Do you over-give? Are you over-focusing on someone who gives nothing back to you? Are you being drained?
Are you avoiding your own pain and self-awareness by trying to change and rescue someone else? That only leads to more pain and suffering. Are you feeling unworthy? Do you feel you just deserve to have to go through what you are going through?