What is Emotional Self Control?

What is emotional self control and why is it important? What skills does emotional self control require? How you can develop those skills and questions to ask yourself to self-reflect on what you may benefit from learning more about the

Life Isn’t Fair

This is a central negative core belief that so many people are often left with from childhood – that Life “Should” be Fair. Let go of this toxic dichotomy of “fair vs unfair” and take personal responsibility and ownership of

Update – CPTSD Autoimmune Recovery & Complex Grief

My update on my health and more in my down-to-earth casual, no doubt “out of the box” ‘road less traveled’ this way style on a casual early evening, work day complete and mellow relaxed go-with-the-flow in autonomic nervous system (ANS)

Complex Complicated Grief – Finding Peace in The Silence

When a loved one dies, by suicide, or a sudden illness or accident, something  especially not expected, grief is usually  understood now to be complex and complicated grief. What that means is that people experiencing complex and complicated grief stay

Externalized Aggression in BPD – Stop Enabling

Many with BPD who pinch, push, or slap a partner or person “close” to them expect others to just tolerate that like there is nothing wrong with it because they “couldn’t help it.” You can’t ever know, anymore than the

3 ways to start loving yourself the way you deserve to be loved

So many people were not ever taught how to truly like, let alone love themselves in childhood. What we learn growing up matters more than most would like to know or face and work to resolve. Before you can start

How a small decision can turn your life around

Do you think that whatever is difficult or beyond difficult in your life first requires some magical answer that will change everything for you? Many people, without realizing it, “think” or feel this way. It is a natural reaction, in

An Overview of Complex Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) What is it? Symptoms of it.

In the first episode of my new Podcast, “Pathways To Healing” (I hope you might follow me) largely on everything Cluster B and other relevant information and aspects of healing and recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, I focus on what Complex

The Wide Ranging Nature of Personal Development

Is the most relevant question, what is personal development, or is it what is it that isn’t part of personal development? Personal Development is a very wide ranging reality in our lives when we choose to engage it. What does

Mindful Focus For Just You Relaxation Audio

A Mindful Focus Just For You Relaxation Affirmation Audio is a positive affirming 60 minute audio to help you take a mini-vacation from worry, negative thoughts, and negative core beliefs about yourself that you may be or have being holding

Create Your Inner & Outer World – Reflective Meditative Personal Growth

A self-reflection, affirmation, reflective meditative video to help you be with yourself and focus on how your inner world reflects your experience of the outer world. An affirmation of how each individual is a significant and important part of the

Running From The Self – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast

Are you running from your “self”. Do you know who you are and what you want. Do you feel empowered? Too many people are avoiding the kind of self-awareness and understanding that empower change and I help people in Life

Live Life Questions Through Radical Acceptance – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast

Everyone has questions in their lives. Questions that they may not know the answer to, questions they may not even have realized they need the answers to yet. We need to live our way to the answers to life questions

Transform Your Self Talk – Change Your Life

Want and need change of any kind in your life? Begin by becoming more aware of your negative and/or self-critical self talk. Begin a journey of re-framing that negative/critical self-talk into positive affirming self-talk that will transform you in ways