What is Emotional Self Control?

What is emotional self control and why is it important? What skills does emotional self control require? How you can develop those skills and questions to ask yourself to self-reflect on what you may benefit from learning more about the

Life Isn’t Fair

This is a central negative core belief that so many people are often left with from childhood – that Life “Should” be Fair. Let go of this toxic dichotomy of “fair vs unfair” and take personal responsibility and ownership of

Externalized Aggression in BPD – Stop Enabling

Many with BPD who pinch, push, or slap a partner or person “close” to them expect others to just tolerate that like there is nothing wrong with it because they “couldn’t help it.” You can’t ever know, anymore than the

3 ways to start loving yourself the way you deserve to be loved

So many people were not ever taught how to truly like, let alone love themselves in childhood. What we learn growing up matters more than most would like to know or face and work to resolve. Before you can start

How a small decision can turn your life around

Do you think that whatever is difficult or beyond difficult in your life first requires some magical answer that will change everything for you? Many people, without realizing it, “think” or feel this way. It is a natural reaction, in

The Wide Ranging Nature of Personal Development

Is the most relevant question, what is personal development, or is it what is it that isn’t part of personal development? Personal Development is a very wide ranging reality in our lives when we choose to engage it. What does

Mindful Focus For Just You Relaxation Audio

A Mindful Focus Just For You Relaxation Affirmation Audio is a positive affirming 60 minute audio to help you take a mini-vacation from worry, negative thoughts, and negative core beliefs about yourself that you may be or have being holding

Can’t Have What you Want?

[huge_it_share id=”1″]For many people with mental health challenges not getting what you want or not being able to have what you thought you wanted can be a very triggering and anger-producing dysregulated and overwhelming emotional place to be. It will

When No Contact as an Adult-Child Is Necessary

Counsellor, Life Coach, and Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari, is an adult-child of a Borderline Personality Disordered Mother and (until the time of his passing in 1997) she was also the daughter of a father with Borderline Personality Disorder and