Borderlines Don’t & Won’t Love You or Attach To You

Borderlines Don’t & Won’t Love You or Attach To You especially if untreated or not substantially treated over years. People with the trauma response the APA pathologizes and stigmatizes as Borderline Personality, have arrested early childhood development. People with BPD

What is Emotional Self Control?

What is emotional self control and why is it important? What skills does emotional self control require? How you can develop those skills and questions to ask yourself to self-reflect on what you may benefit from learning more about the

BPD NPD Relationship Breakup Recovery

With 32 years of experience working with people in recovery and healing from trauma bonded relationships (of any type) with a person with Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Personality Disorder or co-morbidly both, A.J. Mahari, can help you to let go,

After Narcissistic or Borderline Abuse – Difficulty of Finding Support and Understanding

Known as Cluster B Personality Disorders in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM 5) the “bible of psychiatry” (for what it is worth) includes Borderline Personality, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and Anti-Social Personality Disorder (psychopaths & sociopaths). These diagnoses are not

Loved Ones of BPD Protect Your Health When Borderline Rages

Many people with Borderline Personality Disorder are triggered often, causing the idealization split to rapidly become a devaluing split that comes with the emotional dysregulation of externalized aggression, RAGE. After the suicide of my partner, 4 months ago, today, I

15 Signs It’s Time To End a Toxic Relationship

  A.J. Mahari’s YouTube Channel over 600+ Videos and her Audio Podcast Videos   People with mental health challenges, Borderline Personality, Narcissistic Personality, other personality disorders manipulate your feelings and fool you as you fall in love with them. Narcissists

Externalized Aggression in BPD – Stop Enabling

Many with BPD who pinch, push, or slap a partner or person “close” to them expect others to just tolerate that like there is nothing wrong with it because they “couldn’t help it.” You can’t ever know, anymore than the

Recovery from BPD and/or NPD Abuse

Are you a loved one or relative with someone in your life with Narcissistic Personality Disorder? A person with Borderline Personality Disorder? Healing from the abuse of someone in your life with Borderline Personality Disorder and/or Narcissistic Personality Disorder is

Narcissistic Abuse: Two Paths – Only One is the Way To Healing & Recovery

Narcissistic abuse victims or survivors commonly experience many defences – I include 10 that are one path or common experience as each victim who will become a survivor of Narcissistic Abuse first is ambivalent and avoids the pain and anger

An Overview of Complex Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) What is it? Symptoms of it.

In the first episode of my new Podcast, “Pathways To Healing” (I hope you might follow me) largely on everything Cluster B and other relevant information and aspects of healing and recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, I focus on what Complex

Narcissistic Personality Disorder – Abuse in All Relationship Types

Narcissistic culture is breeding an epidemic of narcissism, yes, but, even more specifically here I am referring to the increasing epidemic of people with diagnosed or undiagnosed Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The reality of the exploding narcissistic culture that we all

Abusive Narcissists Out Themselves

Let the Narcissist self-destruct and defeat him or herself. Give them enough rope by disengaging and not being the mouse to their cat and mouse game of abusing you just to feel better. Narcissists enjoy admiration. However, most Narcissists enjoy

Narcissists Never Apologize – Don’t go down the rabbit hole

People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) never apologize. Why is that? How many times have you been down tumbling painfully down the rabbit hole of trying to be seen and heard when you have had your feelings hurt or your

The Only Protection from the BPD, NPD, or Psychopath

What is the only absolute and healthy protection from those with BPD, NPD, or ASPD – the sociopath or psychopath? It is not what you might think. This sure fire healthy way to really protect yourself isn’t about protection at

Are you an Object of Cluster B Supply? What to do?

Are you an object of a person or more than one person with a Cluster B Personality Disorder? Either Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Anti-Social Personality Disorder – the sociopath or psychopath? Do you realize that people with these

Borderline Narcissist CoMorbid Parent(s) – Scapegoated Adult Child

I was the child of two co-morbid Borderline/Narcissists Parents with alcoholism mainly father and his side of family of origin and compulsive over-eating – father and his side of the family. I was the scapegoat child and the scapegoated adult-child.

My Birth to a Narcissistic and Borderline Personality Disordered Mother

When we are born, infants, helpless, totally dependent upon mother, we can’t know that we have, as was in my case, a very personality disordered mother. It starts off very traumatic in life and it just builds from there. This