Narcissists Never Apologize – Don’t go down the rabbit hole

People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) never apologize. Why is that? How many times have you been down tumbling painfully down the rabbit hole of trying to be seen and heard when you have had your feelings hurt or your

Borderline Narcissist CoMorbid Parent(s) – Scapegoated Adult Child

I was the child of two co-morbid Borderline/Narcissists Parents with alcoholism mainly father and his side of family of origin and compulsive over-eating – father and his side of the family. I was the scapegoat child and the scapegoated adult-child.

How is a Narcissistic Family Identified – Application to Client Treatment

  A Narcissistic Family is identified in a new way for Mental Health Professionals in a book written by Mental Health Professionals. This is so important because when in the trenches with clients with Narcissistic Personality Disorder or several NPD

Loved Ones of a Person with BPD Diagnosing Borderline is Not Often Helpful

The internet is a wonderful resource of information on a wide variety of topics as pertains to how people experience each other in family relationships, dating relationships, significant other relationships, friendships and so on. Just googling something, though it may

The Wide Ranging Nature of Personal Development

Is the most relevant question, what is personal development, or is it what is it that isn’t part of personal development? Personal Development is a very wide ranging reality in our lives when we choose to engage it. What does

Running From The Self – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast

Are you running from your “self”. Do you know who you are and what you want. Do you feel empowered? Too many people are avoiding the kind of self-awareness and understanding that empower change and I help people in Life

Live Life Questions Through Radical Acceptance – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast

Everyone has questions in their lives. Questions that they may not know the answer to, questions they may not even have realized they need the answers to yet. We need to live our way to the answers to life questions

Transform Your Self Talk – Change Your Life

Want and need change of any kind in your life? Begin by becoming more aware of your negative and/or self-critical self talk. Begin a journey of re-framing that negative/critical self-talk into positive affirming self-talk that will transform you in ways

Introspection Helps One Heal, Recover, and Grow From Within – 6 Benefits

Life, with all its challenges, pain, difficulty and paradoxically co-existing beauty and ease is all about the learning experiences. Mistakes are growth opportunities and need not be feared. We have all made mistakes and we will all make more. The more open

When No Contact as an Adult-Child Is Necessary

Counsellor, Life Coach, and Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari, is an adult-child of a Borderline Personality Disordered Mother and (until the time of his passing in 1997) she was also the daughter of a father with Borderline Personality Disorder and

Free Borderline Personality From Psychiatric Systemic Pathological Model

The time is long overdue to free Borderline Personality, what it really is, what it really means in people’s lives, from the psychiatric systemic pathological model which now includes Biopsychiatry This unproven but oh so pushed theory that Borderline Personality and any and all of what they call mental illness is a brain disorder by the “powers that be” in the dying “profession” of psychiatry needs to be challenged. Not directly, but inside of yourself so that you can find the healing and quality of life that you deserve and that is so possible to do in empowered alternative healing and recovery.

Does Recovery From Borderline Personality Disorder Mean Recovering Lost Relationships

Does recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder mean reconnecting with people that had to leave to take care of themselves? In my experience the answer is no. It is important to grieve, let go and move on and to learn from past failed interpersonal dynamics so that they are not repeated in the future. What was then, was then. This is now. There are new people to meet, new relationships to forge and as someone who recovered from BPD, I have my – a found, known, and emotionally mature authentic self to fall back on in the meantime in ways that I didn’t have when I had BPD.

How To Know If You Have Borderline Personality (of if a loved one does)

Life Coach, BPD (and Loved Ones) Coach and Peer-Therapist, A.J. Mahari, talks about how you can answer the nagging questions about whether or not you or a loved one of yours may have Borderline Personality in this 66 minute audio.
Mahari talks about her own approach from her own expertise in understanding what Borderline Personality Disorder is often thought to be, how it is pathologized, how psychiatrists have check-lists that mean a lot of people with BPD (high-functioning people) aren’t getting the diagnosis they need to be able to understand what they need to learn more about and become more aware about so that they can heal.