My partner of almost 5 years, who had Borderline Personality Disorder, quiet/high functioning (hidden from me) that I did not know, committed suicide last December 2018. This was and remains traumatic for me. And, this followed a two-year period where
How is a Narcissistic Family Identified – Application to Client Treatment
A Narcissistic Family is identified in a new way for Mental Health Professionals in a book written by Mental Health Professionals. This is so important because when in the trenches with clients with Narcissistic Personality Disorder or several NPD traits,
Narcissistic Abuse Can Cause Brain Injury That Effects Your Physical Health
Prolonged stress and exposure to narcissistic abuse can cause the hippocampus to shrink, which effects your short term memory. This type of stress, trauma and abuse also causes the amygdala to swell. This is a direct result of the
Re-Frame Your Inner Critic Using The Art of Positive Self-Talk
Your self-talk reflects what you believe about yourself often from an internalized critical voice and narrative of a toxic emotional abuser. A narcissist, borderline or psychopathic parent and/or partner. Narcissistic abuse causes trauma, often resulting in Complex Post Traumatic Stress
The Effects of NPD – What it is & Why Narcissists Hurt You So Much
What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder? What are the effects of Narc abuse? Why do narcissists hurt and traumatize so much? A look at the reality of narcissistic abuse and what NPD is and what happens to those who love someone
An Overview of Complex Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) What is it? Symptoms of it.
In the first episode of my new Podcast, “Pathways To Healing” (I hope you might follow me) largely on everything Cluster B and other relevant information and aspects of healing and recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, I focus on what Complex
When The Target of a A Narcissist Just Flow and Let Go
If you, like I am right now, happen to be being targeted by a Narcissistic Personality Disordered bully, in online, as in my case, or in your personal life it’s key that you know to not bite their hooks as
Narcissists Never Apologize – Don’t go down the rabbit hole
People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) never apologize. Why is that? How many times have you been down tumbling painfully down the rabbit hole of trying to be seen and heard when you have had your feelings hurt or your
The Only Protection from the BPD, NPD, or Psychopath
What is the only absolute and healthy protection from those with BPD, NPD, or ASPD – the sociopath or psychopath? It is not what you might think. This sure fire healthy way to really protect yourself isn’t about protection at
Are you an Object of Cluster B Supply? What to do?
Are you an object of a person or more than one person with a Cluster B Personality Disorder? Either Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Anti-Social Personality Disorder – the sociopath or psychopath? Do you realize that people with these
Why Cluster B Loved Ones More Emotionally Reactive
Cluster B Personality Disorders as defined in the DSM-5 create for loved ones, neighbors, co-workers, adult children, and anyone in their proximity, a “crazy-making” gaslighing, abusive and chaotically devoid of boundaries and limits experience. This hurts even the mentally healthy
Borderline Narcissist CoMorbid Parent(s) – Scapegoated Adult Child
I was the child of two co-morbid Borderline/Narcissists Parents with alcoholism mainly father and his side of family of origin and compulsive over-eating – father and his side of the family. I was the scapegoat child and the scapegoated adult-child.
Co-Morbid Borderline Personality and Narcissistic Personality Disorders
Many people are diagnosed with and trying to live with or are seeking treatment for Borderline Personality (BPD). Many are diagnosed with and over-compensating to live with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Twenty-five percent of those diagnosed with BPD are also
Healing from Borderline Personality Narcissistic Personality Abuse – Loved Ones
Healing from the abuse of someone in your life with Borderline Personality Disorder and/or Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a very painful process. Not as painful as being abused is, however. It is a necessary though so that your mental and
Are you A Victim With or Of Borderline Personality Narcissistic Personality and/or Codependence?
Are you a person with Borderline Personality Disorder, or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or loved one of someone with BPD or NPD, a Codependent and you feel like a victim? Are you a victim? Feeling like a victim equals suffering.
Gaslighting Abuse of Narcissistic Personality Disorder – For Loved Ones
Narcissistic Personality Disordered people gaslight their love ones and those closest to them in attempts to meet their own narcissistic supply needs. Gaslighting is a method of psychological abuse and it is very confusing and wounding. All-too-often, so many who
Transform Your Self Talk – Change Your Life
Want and need change of any kind in your life? Begin by becoming more aware of your negative and/or self-critical self talk. Begin a journey of re-framing that negative/critical self-talk into positive affirming self-talk that will transform you in ways
Protect Yourself From A Person With Narcissistic Personality
This post is written for loved ones of those with co-morbid Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder and those who may also have Anti-Social Personal Disorder (ASPD). It is not intended for those with any of these personality disorders.
L’absence de contact comme un adulte-enfant est nécessaire
Pour mes concitoyens qui sont le français et à tous ceux qui partout ailleurs dans le monde qui parle français . Je travaille un Canadien anglais dur pour apprendre le français . Actuellement, je vous écris beaucoup mieux en français
When No Contact as an Adult-Child Is Necessary
Counsellor, Life Coach, and Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari, is an adult-child of a Borderline Personality Disordered Mother and (until the time of his passing in 1997) she was also the daughter of a father with Borderline Personality Disorder and