In order for anyone to be successful, they, at some point in time, will have to overcome a obstacles that challenge their goals and dreams. In order to be successful, you have to overcome a many things. Some of those
5 Tips to Define Clear Goals
Without clear goals you can end up confused about what you want to achieve, and you may be putting yourself putting roadblocks between yourself and your desired goals. Clear goals can give you tremendous momentum and intense purpose in your
Loneliness and Toxic Relationships
A.J. Mahari, Life, BPD and Toxic Relationship Coach talks about what is at the center of toxic relationship/relational dynamics along with other issues – a fear of being alone and/or an inability to be alone – a profound, primal, loneliness
Wait – The Lessons of The Traps of Toxic Relationships
Toxic relating and toxic relationships are compelling for many reasons. Reasons which are for many people not understood until it’s too late. By too late I mean that people are already jumping right into harms way, emotionally. psychologically, and sometimes
Loved Ones with Adult-Children with Borderline Personality
Borderline Personality Disorder is a formidable challenge for those diagnosed with it and for those who love and care about them. It is painful for everyone. Especially severely negatively effected are the parents of adult-children with Borderline Personality Disorder who do not want any help and yet may at the same time be leaving you very worried for them and angry about their refusal to get help. What is a parent to do? How do you cope?
Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life – End Negative Thought Patterns
Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life – 19 Coaching Exercises To Help You Change Negative Thought Patterns by Life Coach, A.J. Mahari, is a 102 page Ebook chalk full of information and 19 coaching exercises to help you change negative thinking into positive thinking. This Ebook stresses how much you will benefit from focusing postively on the here-and-now so that the decisions you are making today will help you create a positive, successful and productive future. And this Ebook doesn’t just tell you that, it provides you with practical exercises that will show you how to create positive change and how to not only stop focusing on the negative, stop worrying, but also stop feeling so stressed and stop ruminating on intrusive, negative, and unwanted thoughts. Not everyone can afford Life Coaching. This Ebook gives you exercises to do that I use with many of my clients and now you too can get this help and at a fraction of the price.
Emotional Competence – Part of Overcoming Codependency
Emotional Competence, specifically, to begin with, learning to observe your feelings without reacting to them, is a central beginning in over-coming, among other things, codependency. Author and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari, knows this from her own journey of recovery 15
Lost Self In Borderline Personality Disorder – Need and Search For Identity
People diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder do not have a sense of a known self or a stable sense of identity. In both audio and video, Author and Mental Health Coach and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari, talks about the lost self in BPD and the need and search for the lost self and for identity. Mahari talks about what it means, what it feels like to not know who you are and how that can effect your life and keep those with BPD stuck in the suffering and victimization of past abandonment trauma.
Splitting, Devaluation, Projection, and Lack of Trust in Borderline Personality Disorder
Borderline Personality Disorder is manifested largely through the defense mechanism of splitting. Splitting is vacillating between the extremes of idealization and devaluation. What results from the negative half of splitting – devaluation is projection and lack of trust. A.J. Mahari, author, speaker, mental health and life coach, in a video, talks about how the negative thinking experienced in the devaluing half of borderline splitting obliterates idealization and produces a marked shift in the mood and behaviour of the borderline.
Borderline Personality Disorder – Recovery and The Question: Who am I?
At the heart of the process of recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder is the need to find one’s lost self – an authentic self that has been lost to the core wound of abandonment in BPD. BPD recovery requires first asking the question, Who am I? Secondly, it requires finding the answer to that question.
Borderline and Angry With A Parent or Parents?
Do you have Borderline Personality Disorder? Are you angry at your mother or father or both? Do you blame them for all that has gone "wrong" or that you would say is "wrong" in your life? A.J. Mahari shares some
The Struggle for Identity in Borderline Personality Disorder
As one who has been there and made it back, A.J. Mahari, examines the struggle for identity, to find the lost authentic self, to know who one really is that those with Borderline Personality Disorder face. What does it entail? What has caused it? Can it be addressed and changed?
Radical Acceptance For Loved Ones – Borderline Personality Disorder
In her latest Audio Podcast A.J. Mahari talks about the value and importance of Radical Acceptance for family members, loved ones, ex or relationship partners of those with Borderline Personality Disorder – non borderlines.
Adult Child of Borderline Mother Needs Own Recovery
In her latest video, A.J. Mahari talks about the reality that those who have (or had) a borderline mother, or father, or as in her case, both, and are an adult-child of a borderline need to engage their own recovery process.
BPD and Pain
Borderline Personality Disorder is a very painful mental illness to live with for those who are diagnosed with it as well as family members, loved ones, and relationship partners. In her latest BPD Audio Podcast, A.J. Mahari talks about the pain of BPD.
H.O.P.E. For Borderline Personality Disorder – Enigma Revealed and Understood
For many who are diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, as well those who are family members, loved ones, ex or relationship partners (non borderlines) of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, BPD can be a complex enigma that isn’t well understood.
H.O.P.E. For Borderline Personality Disorder – Optimism
There is reason to have optimism that Borderline Personality Disorder does not have to be a life sentence. There is reason to have optimism and hope about creating change in your life if you have Borderline Personality Disorder. It is important for those with BPD and those who are family members, loved ones, ex or relationship partners or friends of those with BPD to note that no one can change or rescue someone from Borderline Personality Disorder.
Intimacy With Someone Who Has Borderline Personality Disorder?
Is intimacy possible with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? Can you really create a bond with someone with BPD? Family members and relationship partners of those with BPD as well as friends often find out that those with BPD are not capable of achieving or sustaining a healthy bond.
Borderline Personality is not just a Women’s Mental Illness
Borderline Personality Disorder is not a mental illness that afflicts only women. It may seem that only women are diagnosed with BPD because we read and hear much more about the experiences of women and of course more women, still, seek help then do men.
Borderline Personality Disorder – The Need and Search for Hope
People with Borderline Personality Disorder will benefit from searching for hope. There is hope for recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. It is a challenge to find and learn to trust hope from the active throes of BPD where thinking and feeling and mired in polarized negativity.
