Counselor, Life and Mental Health Coach, and Author A.J. Mahari asks the question of those Borderline Personality Disorder and BPD Family and BPD Loved Ones alike, who is the borderline? This question is asked to explore the loss of self,
This post is written for loved ones of those with co-morbid Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder and those who may also have Anti-Social Personal Disorder (ASPD). It is not intended for those with any of these personality disorders.
It is the Borderline False Self that houses pathological narcissism. Narcissism, pathological narcissism, is not just found in those who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) also wrestle with it as I outline in my newest
In this Category, Toxic Relationship Coach A.J. Mahari will be providing more information about toxic people, toxic relationships, toxic relating, how to recognize these patterns, what the patterns mean, how to learn from the patterns, and also how to break
When it comes to experiencing being hurt by someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder and/or Borderline Personality Disorder can or even should you have compassion for those with narcissism? Having compassion for anyone who is narcissistic, whether they have Narcissistic
We live in stressful times. Each one of us has our own struggles in life. Everyone, at some point or other, in their lives, is looking for ways to increase their happiness, sense of peace, and to create as balanced
Life Coach and author, A.J. Mahari, has many coaching clients who are dealing with varying levels of consequences, in their own individual lives and life situations, that are all related to unresolved abandonment issues. Unresolved childhood abandonment issues are often
In order for anyone to be successful, they, at some point in time, will have to overcome a obstacles that challenge their goals and dreams. In order to be successful, you have to overcome a many things. Some of those
Many people are in toxic relationships and/or are experiencing in one relationship type or another or even perhaps all of their relationships – toxic relational dynamics. This is why it is so important to become more aware of what this
Toxic relationships are proliferating in what is a narcissistic cultural landscape. Are these relationships mistakes? If a toxic relationship is a mistake I would argue that once you begin to learn from it and let it teach you that it
Borderline Personality Disorder, as it is defined in the DSM-IV, has been way too pathologized. It is going to be even more pathologized in the next edition of the DSM – DSM V due out in 2013. Who does that help?
Borderline Personality Disorder is a formidable challenge for those diagnosed with it and for those who love and care about them. It is painful for everyone. Especially severely negatively effected are the parents of adult-children with Borderline Personality Disorder who do not want any help and yet may at the same time be leaving you very worried for them and angry about their refusal to get help. What is a parent to do? How do you cope?
Partners of those who are toxic – or those in toxic relationships have much more to learn about themselves in order to grow, heal, recover and/or create healthy change in their lives.
Adultchildrecoveryaudio1 Author, Life Coach, BPD and Mental Health Coach, recovered borderline, and adult child of two parents with BPD (one parent with BPD/NPD), A.J. Mahari has a new audio to help you to start and/or continue your own recovery. Learn effective tools and skills and boundaries to take back your own life. Learn to eliminate toxic guilt and feeling obligated to a personality-disordered parent.
Life Coach and author, A.J. Mahari, has many coaching clients who are dealing with varying degrees of consequences, in their own individual lives and life situations, that are all related to unresolved abandonment issues. Does everyone who has unresolved abandonment
Author, Life and BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, empowers loved ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder to take care of themselves, cope more effectively with someone with BPD in their lives, and to find their own healing on the other side of BPD via her coaching services for loved ones of those with BPD. Read what a few of her non borderline clients are saying about working with A.J. as a life coach and watch A.J.’s video where she talks about her work coaching loved ones of those with BPD.
Triggers in those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) cause intense emotional dysregulation. Author, BPD and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari sheds a very revealing light on the fact that borderline triggers when faced, instead of avoided, can be gateways to recovery. Borderline triggers are open wounds that seek to help in the healing and recovery process. They can only help you if you let them. They can only help you if you are ready, willing, and able to face the pain that remains unresolved from past abandonment and/or trauma. The very pain that drives the triggered experience of those with BPD.
A.J. Mahari’s Borderline Diary – My Borderline Years – Mirror Without Reflection – My borderline mother, my mirror without reflection. My borderline mother, blank face, blank stare – angry. Always so angry. How many more times will you reach out to her only to be abandoned again. Only to be rendered just a little more invisible? How many times? She hurts me. I hate her. She hates me. I love her. I hate her. I need her. I can’t stand this.
Borderline Personality Disorder has at its centre tremendous pain that is protected against through many defense mechanisms that manifest themselves through anger and rage. Author, speaker, and life coach, A.J. Mahari, talks about the main reasons for the anger and rage in and of BPD.
In the audio program, “Coping With Difficult Toxic and/or Abusive People” A.J. Mahari talks about the reality of coping with difficult, toxic and/or abusive people generally with a focus on the reality that holidays bring out the worst of the worst in toxic relating.