Being authentic and knowing who you are means that what others think about you is none of your business. It is a secure healthy self-love that is peace and freedom from within and that is not dependent, at all, on what others think, say, or do.
For many people who have been in a relationship with someone with Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Personality Disorder and or had a parent with BPD and/or NPD it is a process of healing in therapy and healing one’s codependency that will empower you to your own being fully authentic and knowing who you are. This process is the gateway to your freedom from caring about or being controlled by what others think, do say, or even need.
Stop disempowering yourself by allowing what others think of you to matter so much that you codependently remain trapped in cycles of your wounded inner child that cause you more and more pain. Don’t let what anyone else thinks about you, or expects from you, take your focus off of yourself and your healing and recovery.
I think I’m an oddity of sorts on Youtube. I’m 63 years young. I am fat. Only a couple aspects of my truth that are easy for others to lump into their criticism or judgment, neither of which is my business. It matters not to me. I refuse to hide away or feel a second of shame for being older or for being fat. That’s just two very real aspects of authentically who I am.
Recently, I gained a bit more weight which means I have to sit back more and changes the camera angle for Youtube or any videos I do. I sometimes, do podcast videos where I am not on camera. This can be more physically comfortable for me. But, I find it very important to continue to have an on camera presence authentically too.
We live in an ageist, lookest, sizeist culture underpinned and exacerbated by the image-driven and obsessive reality of the culture of narcissism that is ever-growing, especially in the West.
Get on or continue your healing and recovery journey from BPD or a BPD Ex or an NPD Ex – any Cluster B Relationship Breakup so that you too can be (more fully) authentic and know yourself. So you too, can know the freedom, joy, and bliss, of self-love, self-acceptance, and that what other think or say about you is none of your business. It is also none of your business (or mine) how others judge.
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