Social Media, like Twitter, Facebook, Youtube, Pinterest, etc, etc, have both positive and negatives in people’s lives. How can you tell what the effects of social media and/or time spent on the internet generally are in your own life? It
Being Awake, Aware, and Involved In Your Life – Evolutionary Enlightenment
In the process of our own self growth and personal development we are all at varying stages of awakening to our evolutionary enlightenment. Do you seem to be going through the motions in your life? Do you feel like you
Does Love Erode in a Relationship With a Narcissist?
Does love erode in a relationship with a narcissist? Does it just erode, implode or explode, does it simply self-destruct? What happens to love in these relationships? Why are these relationships so painful for those who are not personality-disordered? What
Toxic Relationship Recovery
Are you in a toxic relationship? Are things chaotic, dramatic, with lots of conflict? Did you ever think love could be that complicated? Well, guess what, love is not really that complicated at all. What is felt and shared in
Coaching and Understanding to Help BPD Loved Ones (Non Borderlines) Cope with Someone With BPD in Your Life
Loved ones, family members, partners or ex-partners of those with Borderline Personality Disorder are often confused, in pain, and struggling to cope with a loved one with BPD. Life Coach, BPD and Mental Health Coach A.J. Mahari was interviewed on
Finding Your Voice – Being Connected to Yourself Emotionally
Finding your voice, your authenticity, or more of your authenticity, requires you to seek and remain open to being connected and staying connected to your authentic self emotionally. It is this quest for your own emotional mastery that will teach
Being Aware of Your Emotional Fear
Many people when they first hear the word fear think of some immediate physical threat or walking down a dark street at night. Fear is associated with as many aspects of human experience as there are people. Fear is all-too-common.
The Dialectic Of Emotions
What is an Emotional Dialectic? Among a myriad of other aspects of what a dialectic is or what dialects are it will suffice as an introduction to day that the answer to this question is that a dialectic is the juxtaposition
Can You Ever Really “Go Home” Again?
Most people will be familiar with that old saying, “You can never go home again.” You know, go back to your old neighbourhood, or in my case, since my father got transferred many times in my growing up years, you
Action Strategies to Help You Regulate Your Emotions
Many people, for many different reasons that stem from many different life experiences and unresolved childhood issues or trauma over-react often to things said to them, life, stress, inter-personal relational situations, and find it difficult to relate congruently and consistently
Recognizing and Coping with Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic abuse can be the result of any unhealthy or toxic relationship with any personality disordered person those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and other disorders. Those who have NPD perpetrate verbal, emotional, and/or physical abuse
Who is Responsibile For Your Happiness?
Who is responsible for your happiness? Many people are seeking to find validation, fulfillment, and happiness from outside of themselves. From others or from what they do or what they have materialistically. Just who is responsible for your happiness? Have
Achieve your goals: Find Out What Is Blocking you?
Many people find that their lives are not fulfilling – that they are unhappy. Many people are not exactly sure why. Often what is at the core of many issues in people’s lives is that they have not actually set
Footsteps of the Past Obstruct The Here and Now
As a Counselor Life Coach, BPD Coach and Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari talks with clients every day who are in the on-going experience of having their footsteps from the past obstruct their here-and-now in ways that mean unidentified and
Core of Toxic Relationships – Codependence
Codependence is a mindset that is at the core of toxic relating and toxic, enmeshed, relationships. It is mindset that leads people, often without being aware of it, to try to get their needs met by and/or through others. Neediness
Suffering is a Choice Related to Unresolved Abandonment Issues
Many people experience their emotional suffering as something that is outside of them. Something over which they have no control. The fact is that suffering is really a choice. Say what? Before you get angry or think I’m trying to
7 Central Principles of Personal Mastery
Principles behind personal and self mastery are actually fundamental concepts that are essential when building relationships – professional, social, interpersonal, and spiritual. The first principle stresses being aware of how you define success. In personal mastery, along with its central
Suffering is a Choice Related to Unresolved Abandonment Issues
Many people experience their emotional suffering as something that is outside of them. Something over which they have no control. The fact is that suffering is really a choice. Say what? Before you get angry or think I’m trying to
Steps To Coping With Regret
Life Coach, author, writer/narrartor of Audio Programs, A.J. Mahari, in her “Steps to Coping With …” series draws upon not only her own personal life experience with learning to cope in ways that are effective in creating positive and lasting
The Real You – Awakening to Who You Are in Universal Terms
Are you awakening to who you really are? The you, not separate from the universe? The you that is like a ripple in the universe of humanity just as each drop of water is a ripple and a part beloning
