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Please Note: All Sessions are 55 or 90 minutes in length (depending on your purchase choice) and are non-refundable.

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Please Note: All Sessions are 55 or 90 minutes in length (depending on your purchase choice) and are non-refundable. You will be emailed upon purchase of a session or sessions to schedule within 2-3 to 5 days of your purchase and when my next openings are. Sessions cannot be scheduled until purchased.

Sessions changes notification 48 hours for any booked purchased session or the session will be forfeited.

Please Note: All Sessions are non-refundable. Upon notification of your session(s) purchase I will email you within 48-72 hours to schedule.

Sessions changes notification 48 hours for any booked purchased session or the session will be forfeited.

Please Note: All Sessions are 6o, 90, 0r 120 minutes in length (depending on your purchase choice) and are non-refundable. You will be emailed upon purchase a session or sessions to schedule within 2-3 to 5 days of your purchase and when my next openings are.

Sessions cannot be scheduled until purchased.

Sessions changes notification by clients is required 48 hours in advance for any booked purchased session or the session will be forfeited.

Sessions changes notification 48 hours for any booked purchased session or the session will be forfeited.


How I Work With Clients:

The healing and recovery process from a relationship with a person with Borderline Personality (BPD Abuse) involves the dual process of understanding and working to heal from borderline abuse and the relationship along with Codependency Recovery. In these recovery processes it is the goal to Break the Trauma Bond, replace negative core beliefs, of the inner critic, and to use the modalities described below to help you not only get “yourself” back again but to know that self as a secure home within perhaps for the first time in your life. Surviving a BPD relationship breakup means healing from the trauma of borderline abuse and the duality of relationship shame wounds and the abandonment, shame and other wounds also from childhood.

In this process with clients I use an eclectic humanistic approach. Chief among these modalities that I have found most helpful to clients over the last 30 years, are Family of Origin work, Inner Child Healing work, and Self-Differentiation along with Internal Family Systems work and also included in an eclectic multi-faceted humanistic approach and process other  modalities I use also include: but which are not limited to, Transference Focused Therapy, Schema Therapy, Somatic Therapy, “talk therapy”, narrative story Life Coaching, CBT, DBT, and other approaches or a  mix of approaches that help each individual client in his or her own process of recovery and on-going personal growth.

In recovery from Narcissistic Abuse clients are guided in processing and re-framing the “programmed” thoughts and negative core emotions/beliefs that those thoughts are driving as you continue to be in a heightened state of high flight/fight/freeze/fawn response to emotional, visual, and/or somatic flashbacks. The first thing I help clients do is to learn how to settle their nervous systems down. How to ground. How to deep breathe, to name just to methods, that can really begin to help you learn to cope with the change, healing and recovery process and help you get some very quick relief the  more you practice these coping tools/skills and more.

I will help you come to find your own self, your voice, your narrative and to break free from all that still hurts over and over as you remember, perhaps ruminating on all that the Borderline or Narcissist abuser said to you and blamed you for – that was really all the abuser’s “stuff” that they projected out onto you and that they have no self-awareness of. They can’t take responsibility. You need to know you now and to be there for you now. A key central core aspect of this recovery from Narcissistic abuse is coming back to your for the first time really fully knowing yourself and/or learning more about yourself to have different boundaries and a strengthening resilience of self. It is one of the best remedies to protect you from any further narcissistic abuse or Cluster B’s you may encounter in this world, in life in general that you will then be able to effectively cope with and not be traumatized again by.

I have come through this myself in recovery from a toxic Narcissistic Dysfunctional Family of Origin. I want to help you heal and recover from Narcissistic abuse. I know that you, too, can do this. It is a process. Each individual person’s journey is a little bit different. I honour that and individualize the process to each client to ensure that how I can support and help you is the best way for you. That this method and process of healing and recovery is optimized to where you are, how you are coping, or not, with that, how you learn, how you process, and of course, with the steady slow pace or medium pace or perhaps a more accelerated pace, depending where, you, individually, are in either beginning or continuing your narcissistic abuse recovery journey.

I look forward to working with you, as the individual that you are, beginning with you wherever you are in a caring, accepting, non-judgmental way, and with validating support and true understanding in a safe, comforting and confidential process.

 

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