BPD idealization is not as real as BPD devaluation. Both result from the core relational impairment of the Approach Avoidance Conflict in BPD – It’s the push-pull “get-away closer” that cannot and will not ever change until and unless each person with BPD has 8=16 years of successful treatment. Without that treatment Borderlines have no hope of learning object constancy and object permanence. Borderline Approach/Avoid (push/pull) is the absence of object constancy.
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