If you have been, or are being, love bombed by a person with Borderline Personality, Narcissistic Personality, or Anti-Social Personality (ASPD) – a sociopath or a psychopath this video describes what you need to recognize most to help yourself. People
How is a Narcissistic Family Identified – Application to Client Treatment
A Narcissistic Family is identified in a new way for Mental Health Professionals in a book written by Mental Health Professionals. This is so important because when in the trenches with clients with Narcissistic Personality Disorder or several NPD
Loved Ones of a Person with BPD Diagnosing Borderline is Not Often Helpful
The internet is a wonderful resource of information on a wide variety of topics as pertains to how people experience each other in family relationships, dating relationships, significant other relationships, friendships and so on. Just googling something, though it may
Are you A Victim With or Of Borderline Personality Narcissistic Personality and/or Codependence?
Are you a person with Borderline Personality Disorder, or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or loved one of someone with BPD or NPD, a Codependent and you feel like a victim? Are you a victim? Feeling like a victim equals suffering.
Does Love Erode in a Relationship With a Narcissist?
Does love erode in a relationship with a narcissist? Does it just erode, implode or explode, does it simply self-destruct? What happens to love in these relationships? Why are these relationships so painful for those who are not personality-disordered? What
The False Self in and of Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality – its Pathological Narcissism
It is the Borderline False Self that houses pathological narcissism. Narcissism, pathological narcissism, is not just found in those who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) also wrestle with it as I outline in my newest
Toxic Relationship Recovery
Are you in a toxic relationship? Are things chaotic, dramatic, with lots of conflict? Did you ever think love could be that complicated? Well, guess what, love is not really that complicated at all. What is felt and shared in
Toxic Relationships and The Need to Let Go
Life is a series of hellos and good-byes. It is about attaching, connecting, and often separating and then detaching, disconnecting and letting go. In toxic relationships all-too-often one or both participants are not skilled when it comes to limits, boundaries,
Borderlines and Mind Games?
Do people diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder play mind games? Life coach, BPD Coach and BPD Loved Ones Coach A.J. Mahari examines this stressing that the answer to this question is not black and white. The answer is somewhere in
The Legacy of Toxic Relationships – Where The Personality Disordered and The Non Personality Disordered Interconnect and Suffer
Toxic relationships seem to be pervasive to the point where healthy relationships are in the minority. Toxic relationships are proliferating and have been doing so for the better part of the last few decades. Toxic relationships are the coming together
The Prevalence of Narcissism
Narcissism seems to be everywhere, and many would say, more and more, with each and every passing day. What’s up with this? Is it true? Or, are we just more inclined to label traits or behavior of others as being
The “Adult” Bully – Why?
A.J. Mahari is a Life Coach that helps people cope with and work through the painful consequences of having been bullied. Bullies, in adulthood, try to personify power because they feel helpless and out of control. They tell lies and
Core of Toxic Relationships – Codependence
Codependence is a mindset that is at the core of toxic relating and toxic, enmeshed, relationships. It is mindset that leads people, often without being aware of it, to try to get their needs met by and/or through others. Neediness
What is High Conflict Personality?
In the past there was more focus put on individual personality disorders that can be a source of high conflict. Now, there are references to what is known or described as a “high conflict personality” (HCP). HCP, given its overlap