Surviving a BPD Relationship Breakup, Ghost, or Discard – Newly Discovering BPD?

A man is holding a broken heart. The heart is red and has been shattered into pieces. The man’s face is serious and sad, as if he is mourning the loss of the heart

More people every day are finding out that they are dating a person with Borderline Personality Disorder (or traits of undiagnosed) or are in a significant other relationships with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) (or patterns of undiagnosed). This means more and more people are still unaware of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and won’t or don’t find out until they have been cheated on, ghosted for someone else (or not) or outright discarded (from which there will be not one more chance).

These relationships, whether dating, significant other, marriage, sibling, adult child of a BPD parent or a parent of and adult child with BPD, involve loved ones in what they believe are very close relationships. In what might seem like very close, tight, loving relationships. Until suddenly and without warning one day you are thrown for a loop, confused, dazed, even, by a sudden split to devaluation by the person you have (more often than not) had no idea they have or may have BPD. Then your life is turned upside down. Pain is everywhere. You think it’s your fault. You think you did something wrong. Most often, no, this is not the case at all.

I have been working with clients, people, just like yourself, who come to find upon doing an internet search for how a loved one is acting that someone close to them has BPD. These relationships are much more often than not between people with diagnosed or undiagnosed BPD and people with Codependency. These relationships (all relationship types) more often than not are trauma bonds, or betrayal bonds. They are not healthy loving relationships as everyone first believes or was totally convinced. No one wants to believe that someone you thought you knew and who you loved just suddenly isn’t who you thought they were and they don’t feel the same way about you.

Were you convinced by someone out to just fool you and be cruel to you. No. Does that help much, for some, a little, for many, no, not at all.

What is important if you are searching the internet and are new to do so to try to understand what is happening with someone you are or were close to, it’s imperative that you make sure to be careful about the information that you are taking in.

I specialize in working with men, partners, boyfriends of women with suspected or diagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder. I also work with with women who have been with a Borderline man, or homosexual men who have been with a Borderline man as well as Lesbian women who have been with a Borderline woman. I can help you to understand and start from there, no matter what you are feeling or doing, whether that is angry and going no contact, or overwhelmed, lost, in disbelief and not believing that you can’t make your relationship work.

Tragically, for so many Borderline Personality Disorder will mean that relationships cannot work out no matter how many times you try to recycle them. It’s relatively rare that you get any closure or understanding when one of these relationships is just suddenly over.

Surviving a BPD Relationship breakup, ghosting, or outright discard, which is difficult to know at first if it is a final discard given that only time will tell in many cases, this among many other aspects of BPD and these relationships makes the end, or end after end, excruciatingly painful. A BPD relationship breakup is more painful than any other type of relationship breakup. I have heard this over 34 years of working with clients, yes, even clients that have been with a Narcissist, and then a person with BPD.

To survive a BPD Breakup it is imperative that people get professional help, coaching and/or therapy. I am an expert in this area and if you are reeling right now, feeling confused, lost, overwhelmed and suspecting someone you love has BPD and you don’t want to lose this person I am out here to work with people that resonate with me. I work with clients helping them to understand BPD, ask many questions that I can answer about why this person you love suddenly changed and what do you want to know more about in deciding what you are going to to do now.

I don’t tell anyone what to do. Many clients over the years have actively been trying to get back with a BPD Ex. Many others want to but know they can’t take anymore. No matter where you are right now in finding out someone you love (in any relationship type) or did love has BPD and all that goes with that including that many of these relationships won’t continue whether you want the relationship to end or not.

I am very passionate about helping people figure out what they are up against and what they want to do in their own individual situation. Do you just need answers right now? Do you need to be heard and totally understood? I can help you with that. I can give you in depth insight to what you share with me about what has happened, is happening, and all that just makes no sense to you.

If you are new to this relational and very painful “world” and you just want to talk to someone, be heard by someone who can help you get your feet back under you, than I hope you will reach out and/or purchase/book a session or sessions so that I can help you learn more, navigate your experiences because the closer to new BPD that you are the more support and education you will benefit from.

Purchase a session or sessions with A.J. Mahari to first stop your head from spinning and to begin or continue to find out more and understand BPD and Codependency so that you can put one foot in front of the other as your world is shaking up and down.