Counselor & Life Coach A.J. Mahari

A.J. Mahari
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The Shame of Abandonment: The Black Hole of Borderline Personality Disorder

The black hole of BPD affects both borderlines and non-borderlines. It is painful and real on both sides of Borderline Personality Disorder. The shame of abandonment is an enduring self-destructive schema for those with BPD. It is a pattern of toxic relating and relationship rupture.

A.J. Mahari June 11, 2008 BPD and Shame No Comments Read more

Borderline Self-Harm/Self-Mutilation Serves as a Defense To Unresolved Abandonment Trauma

For many who are diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) self harm and/or self mutilation are maladaptive or pathological attempts to ward off the repressed pain of unresolved abandonment trauma that lies at the heart of BPD.

A.J. Mahari May 30, 2008 A.J.'s Podcast, BPD General No Comments Read more

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  • Hypersexual Borderline Women – What Men Need to Know Part 2
  • Hypersexuality in BPD Women Part of The Who You Thought She Was Trauma Bond | Part 3
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