A.J. Mahari has 32 years experience in specialized session work with clients who need to heal from BPD or NPD abusive relationships. A.J. Mahari has a 12 Step Heal From BPD and NPD Abuse methodology used in her Cluster B
BPD Lack of Emotional Intimacy
People, untreated, with Borderline Personality Disorder, cannot be emotionally intimate, in any relationship type, consistently, congruently, or age-appropriately. What is healthy emotional intimacy? Healthy emotional intimacy requires mutuality and reciprocity. It also requires the emotional intelligence and maturity to be
Be Authentic and Know Yourself
Being authentic and knowing who you are means that what others think about you is none of your business. It is a secure healthy self-love that is peace and freedom from within and that is not dependent, at all, on
Borderline Forever Ammunition & Codependent Repetition Compulsions in Trauma Bonds
What is Borderline Forever Ammunition? It wounds and it is abuse. Toxic Relationships that are Trauma Bonds. Codependent Repetition Compulsions keep you in the double bind no-win trap of self-abandonment. Borderline Forever Ammunition is especially true for untreated borderlines. Codependent
BPD Relationships Begin to End From the Start – The Unconscious Set Up
BPD Relationships Begin to End From the Start The Unconscious Set Up is in play from the very beginning o BPD Relationships as they begin and start to end based on the core wound in childhood. Unbeknownst to untreated people
3 Stages in Relationship With People with Borderline Personality
There are 3 stages to BPD Relationship that pw/BPD and Codependents are not conscious of when these relationships start. If you are new to figuring out what’s going on or still trying to get over the BPD Ex and needing
BPD Relationships Hypersexuality of BPD Women is The Trap of Sex Addiction In the Trauma Bond For Men
You meet her, the woman with Borderline Personality, she is amazing, things happen quickly. Sex and relating are intense. The Borderline hypersexual woman. Everything is just so great to the point of what comes next, in time, that it you
Hypersexual Borderline Women – What Men Need to Know Part 2
Borderline Women and Hypersexuality – What Men Need to Know Part 2 Hypersexuality in women with Borderline Personality Disorder is correlated to sexual abuse trauma in childhood. It is the symptomology of this trauma. Not all women with BPD are
Hypersexuality in BPD Women Part of The Who You Thought She Was Trauma Bond | Part 3
Hypersexuality in BPD Women Part of The Who You Thought She Was Trauma Bond Part 3 The intensity and hypersexuality of the untreated Borderline woman is only another part of the who-you-thought-she-was trauma bond. It Codependency Recovery after a BPD
BPD ABUSE – Borderline Externalized Aggression
Not all with BPD are the same. Some will never be violent. A smaller percentage of both Men with BPD and women with BPD can be violent physically. Male and Female Borderlines Abuse in many ways. What has been your
Borderline Forever Ammunition Codependent Repetition Compulsions Trauma Bonds
Borderline Forever Ammunition Codependent Repetition Compulsions Trauma Bonds What is Borderline Forever Ammunition? It wounds and it is abuse. The Trauma Bond. Codependent Repetition Compulsions keep you in the double bind no-win trap of self-abandonment. Borderline Forever Ammunition is especially
Borderline Personality – The Hidden Abuse of Non Borderlines
Borderline Personality – The Hidden Abuse of Non Borderlines Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is highly associated with verbal abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, physical abuse, and/or domestic violence often suffered by those who are non-borderline. The propensity for abusiveness
Borderlines Don’t & Won’t Love You or Attach To You
Borderlines Don’t & Won’t Love You or Attach To You especially if untreated or not substantially treated over years. People with the trauma response the APA pathologizes and stigmatizes as Borderline Personality, have arrested early childhood development. People with BPD
What is Emotional Self Control?
What is emotional self control and why is it important? What skills does emotional self control require? How you can develop those skills and questions to ask yourself to self-reflect on what you may benefit from learning more about the
Life Isn’t Fair
This is a central negative core belief that so many people are often left with from childhood – that Life “Should” be Fair. Let go of this toxic dichotomy of “fair vs unfair” and take personal responsibility and ownership of
Codependent Collusion & Self-Abandonment
Codependent Collusion & Self-Abandonment in and after a relationship with a person with Borderline Personality means recovery is two-pronged. On one level you need to heal from the relationship with the person with BPD. You also need to get into
Connect To Self – Codependency Recovery
Codependency has its roots in childhood. It is deep. It is painful. It is an unhealthy relational pattern. Codependency is to varying degrees is a loss of self, a lack of self love, in childhood, emotionally. In response to adverse
BPD Emotional Radioactivity is Codependent Kryptonite
People with Borderline Personality or NPD are codependent kryptonite. They continue to hurt you where your inner child lives inside of you. They don’t consciously (more w/BPD) do this on purpose but it happens. Codependents need to focus on the
BPD NPD Relationship Breakup Recovery
With 32 years of experience working with people in recovery and healing from trauma bonded relationships (of any type) with a person with Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Personality Disorder or co-morbidly both, A.J. Mahari, can help you to let go,
Borderline Entitlement | Internal Split Projected Out
Borderline Entitlement Internal Original Split Projected Out leaves so many feeling blamed and shamed by someone with BPD in their lives as if how the person with BPD abused and/or manipulate you is how you treated them. People with Borderline
