BPD Lack of Emotional Intimacy

People, untreated, with Borderline Personality Disorder, cannot be emotionally intimate, in any relationship type, consistently, congruently, or age-appropriately. What is healthy emotional intimacy? Healthy emotional intimacy requires mutuality and reciprocity. It also requires the emotional intelligence and maturity to be

Borderline Forever Ammunition & Codependent Repetition Compulsions in Trauma Bonds

What is Borderline Forever Ammunition? It wounds and it is abuse. Toxic Relationships that are Trauma Bonds. Codependent Repetition Compulsions keep you in the double bind no-win trap of self-abandonment. Borderline Forever Ammunition is especially true for untreated borderlines. Codependent

Borderline Personality – The Hidden Abuse of Non Borderlines

Borderline Personality – The Hidden Abuse of Non Borderlines   Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is highly associated with verbal abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, physical abuse, and/or domestic violence often suffered by those who are non-borderline. The propensity for abusiveness

Borderlines Don’t & Won’t Love You or Attach To You

Borderlines Don’t & Won’t Love You or Attach To You especially if untreated or not substantially treated over years. People with the trauma response the APA pathologizes and stigmatizes as Borderline Personality, have arrested early childhood development. People with BPD

What is Emotional Self Control?

What is emotional self control and why is it important? What skills does emotional self control require? How you can develop those skills and questions to ask yourself to self-reflect on what you may benefit from learning more about the

Life Isn’t Fair

This is a central negative core belief that so many people are often left with from childhood – that Life “Should” be Fair. Let go of this toxic dichotomy of “fair vs unfair” and take personal responsibility and ownership of

BPD NPD Relationship Breakup Recovery

With 32 years of experience working with people in recovery and healing from trauma bonded relationships (of any type) with a person with Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Personality Disorder or co-morbidly both, A.J. Mahari, can help you to let go,