Complex Complicated Grief – Finding Peace in The Silence

When a loved one dies, by suicide, or a sudden illness or accident, something  especially not expected, grief is usually  understood now to be complex and complicated grief. What that means is that people experiencing complex and complicated grief stay

When Trauma Leads To Autoimmune Disorders – My Rapid WeightGain and Complex Grief

My partner of almost 5 years, who had Borderline Personality Disorder, quiet/high functioning (hidden from me) that I did not know, committed suicide last December 2018. This was and remains traumatic for me. And, this followed a two-year period where

After Narcissistic or Borderline Abuse – Difficulty of Finding Support and Understanding

Known as Cluster B Personality Disorders in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM 5) the “bible of psychiatry” (for what it is worth) includes Borderline Personality, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and Anti-Social Personality Disorder (psychopaths & sociopaths). These diagnoses are not

Loved Ones of BPD Protect Your Health When Borderline Rages

Many people with Borderline Personality Disorder are triggered often, causing the idealization split to rapidly become a devaluing split that comes with the emotional dysregulation of externalized aggression, RAGE. After the suicide of my partner, 4 months ago, today, I

When a Borderline Partner Commits Suicide – 4 Months Since She Took Her Life

After the suicide of my partner, 4 months ago, today, I have experienced intense grief, sleep deprivation, severe stress, conflicting emotions the list of which I could never complete or do justice here. This traumatic loss has left me with

15 Signs It’s Time To End a Toxic Relationship

  A.J. Mahari’s YouTube Channel over 600+ Videos and her Audio Podcast Videos   People with mental health challenges, Borderline Personality, Narcissistic Personality, other personality disorders manipulate your feelings and fool you as you fall in love with them. Narcissists

Externalized Aggression in BPD – Stop Enabling

Many with BPD who pinch, push, or slap a partner or person “close” to them expect others to just tolerate that like there is nothing wrong with it because they “couldn’t help it.” You can’t ever know, anymore than the

3 ways to start loving yourself the way you deserve to be loved

So many people were not ever taught how to truly like, let alone love themselves in childhood. What we learn growing up matters more than most would like to know or face and work to resolve. Before you can start

How is a Narcissistic Family Identified – Application to Client Treatment

A Narcissistic Family is identified in a new way for Mental Health Professionals in a book written by Mental Health Professionals. This is so important because when in the trenches with clients with Narcissistic Personality Disorder or several NPD traits,

Narcissistic Abuse Can Cause Brain Injury That Effects Your Physical Health

  Prolonged stress and exposure to narcissistic abuse can cause the hippocampus to shrink, which effects your short term memory. This type of stress, trauma and abuse also causes the amygdala to swell. This is a direct result of the

Re-Frame Your Inner Critic Using The Art of Positive Self-Talk

Your self-talk reflects what you believe about yourself often from an internalized critical voice and narrative of a toxic emotional abuser. A narcissist, borderline or psychopathic parent and/or partner. Narcissistic abuse causes trauma, often resulting in Complex Post Traumatic Stress

Recovery from BPD and/or NPD Abuse

Are you a loved one or relative with someone in your life with Narcissistic Personality Disorder? A person with Borderline Personality Disorder? Healing from the abuse of someone in your life with Borderline Personality Disorder and/or Narcissistic Personality Disorder is

How a small decision can turn your life around

Do you think that whatever is difficult or beyond difficult in your life first requires some magical answer that will change everything for you? Many people, without realizing it, “think” or feel this way. It is a natural reaction, in

Narcissistic Abuse: Two Paths – Only One is the Way To Healing & Recovery

Narcissistic abuse victims or survivors commonly experience many defences – I include 10 that are one path or common experience as each victim who will become a survivor of Narcissistic Abuse first is ambivalent and avoids the pain and anger

The Effects of NPD – What it is & Why Narcissists Hurt You So Much

What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder? What are the effects of Narc abuse? Why do narcissists hurt and traumatize so much? A look at the reality of narcissistic abuse and what NPD is and what happens to those who love someone

The Core of NPD & the Difference Between Overt & Covert Narcissists

What is at the heart or center of Narcissistic Personality Disorder? This central result of an intra-psychic narcissistic injury also reveals the core difference between overt and covert narcissists. © A.J. Mahari – All rights reserved (except quoted & noted

Recovery From Narcissistic Abuse – Face your pain – Find Yourself

What are you or were you so afraid of when being abuse by the Narcissist, Borderline, or Psychopath? What was it that kept you or may still be keeping you from what you need to know now – so that

Covert Narcissists Exposed – The Quieter Narcissistic Targeted Predatory Hatred

Covert narcissists have been referred to as vulnerable or inverted narcissists. Do we really need 3 labels for this one type of narcissist? I think not. A covert narcissist is the same as the vulnerable/inverted. Covert narcissists are known to

The Core of Narcissistic Personality – Overt/Covert Difference

In this podcast episode, also, uploaded to my Youtube Channel I talk about what is the central core of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. And what that central core pathology means to how and why narcissists do what they do. Why they