Codependency vs Covert Narcissists

Codependents are not narcissists and narcissists – specifically the “pretending” to be “codependent” cover narcissists are not actually codependent. Many people have various differing opinions on this. I can see where some are coming from. However, just because to a

Key To Recovery After a Borderline or Narcissist

Many disagree as to what an Empath is versus a Codependent. Many psychologists note that empaths have codependency and are codependents. Some will say empaths have codependent tendencies. This debate back and forth really misses the central point. That is,

Update – CPTSD Autoimmune Recovery & Complex Grief

My update on my health and more in my down-to-earth casual, no doubt “out of the box” ‘road less traveled’ this way style on a casual early evening, work day complete and mellow relaxed go-with-the-flow in autonomic nervous system (ANS)

Complex Complicated Grief – Finding Peace in The Silence

When a loved one dies, by suicide, or a sudden illness or accident, something  especially not expected, grief is usually  understood now to be complex and complicated grief. What that means is that people experiencing complex and complicated grief stay

When Trauma Leads To Autoimmune Disorders – My Rapid WeightGain and Complex Grief

My partner of almost 5 years, who had Borderline Personality Disorder, quiet/high functioning (hidden from me) that I did not know, committed suicide last December 2018. This was and remains traumatic for me. And, this followed a two-year period where

After Narcissistic or Borderline Abuse – Difficulty of Finding Support and Understanding

Known as Cluster B Personality Disorders in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM 5) the “bible of psychiatry” (for what it is worth) includes Borderline Personality, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and Anti-Social Personality Disorder (psychopaths & sociopaths). These diagnoses are not

Loved Ones of BPD Protect Your Health When Borderline Rages

Many people with Borderline Personality Disorder are triggered often, causing the idealization split to rapidly become a devaluing split that comes with the emotional dysregulation of externalized aggression, RAGE. After the suicide of my partner, 4 months ago, today, I

When a Borderline Partner Commits Suicide – 4 Months Since She Took Her Life

After the suicide of my partner, 4 months ago, today, I have experienced intense grief, sleep deprivation, severe stress, conflicting emotions the list of which I could never complete or do justice here. This traumatic loss has left me with

15 Signs It’s Time To End a Toxic Relationship

  A.J. Mahari’s YouTube Channel over 600+ Videos and her Audio Podcast Videos   People with mental health challenges, Borderline Personality, Narcissistic Personality, other personality disorders manipulate your feelings and fool you as you fall in love with them. Narcissists

Externalized Aggression in BPD – Stop Enabling

Many with BPD who pinch, push, or slap a partner or person “close” to them expect others to just tolerate that like there is nothing wrong with it because they “couldn’t help it.” You can’t ever know, anymore than the

3 ways to start loving yourself the way you deserve to be loved

So many people were not ever taught how to truly like, let alone love themselves in childhood. What we learn growing up matters more than most would like to know or face and work to resolve. Before you can start