In those with Borderline Personality (BPD) due to a lack of known self there is no emotional reference for self vs other in interpersonal relating due to the early childhood arrested development caused by no bonding, insecure bonding, abandonment trauma
Radical Acceptance of Where You Are and Why – Loved Ones of BPD
BPD and BPD Loved Ones Coach, A.J. Mahari talks, in this 138 minute audio, about what people on the other side of BPD – Loved Ones of BPD really need to know and understand to understand more about what is
7 Central Principles of Personal Mastery
Principles behind personal and self mastery are actually fundamental concepts that are essential when building relationships – professional, social, interpersonal, and spiritual. The first principle stresses being aware of how you define success. In personal mastery, along with its central
Borderline Personality Has Been Too Pathologized
Borderline Personality Disorder, as it is defined in the DSM-IV, has been way too pathologized. It is going to be even more pathologized in the next edition of the DSM – DSM V due out in 2013. Who does that help?
Unresolved Abandonment and Negative Expectations – Break Free
Life Coach and author, A.J. Mahari, has many coaching clients who are dealing with varying degrees of consequences, in their own individual lives and life situations, that are all related to unresolved abandonment issues. Does everyone who has unresolved abandonment
Borderline Personality Self Help – The 2.0 Wave
Borderline Personality Disorder was long thought to be untreatable. In spite of maintaining its unfortunate stigmatized standing among many professionals and people generally, BPD, Mental Health and Life Coaches, like myself, along with many who are well on the road to recovery are moving forward. This forward looking movement of BPD awareness is spreading the news that BPD is highly treatable. That there really is hope. This is what I call the 2.0 wave.
Splitting and The Non Borderline Experience of BPD
Splitting is a primitive defense mechanism that borderlines routinely enact when they are triggered by events/emotions in the here and now that threaten their feeling anything to do with their original core wound of abandonment and the intrapsychic trauma associated with that abandonment.
Inside The Borderline Mind – Insight For Non Borderlines
Inside the borderline mind there is a very profound split, fragmentation, and in some cases a shattering of the ego due to the narcissistic intrapsychic injury sustained at a very young age as the result of abandonment (actual and/or perceived) that arrests emotional development.
What does every family member, friend, relationship partner, or ex-relationship partner (non borderline) need to know about what goes on inside the borderline mind? Why does understanding the workings of the borderline mind matter to those who are non borderline?
Narcissism, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and Borderline Personality
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is part of a wider continuum of narcissism not the sum total of it all. NPD is not the sole domain of narcissism. Narcissism, to varying degrees, is also a part of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Narcissism is a primitive defense mechanism common to both personality disorders though not manifested exactly the same and not serving the exact same purpose always. Narcissism in BPD is not as extreme as it is in NPD. However, that distinction made there are many people who are diagnosed with both personality disorders. Both NPD and BPD can co-exist within an individual.
