- The voluntary agreement among individuals by which, according to any of various theories, as of Hobbes, Locke, or Rousseau, organized society is brought into being and invested with the right to secure mutual protection and welfare or to regulate the relations among its members.
An agreement for mutual benefit between an individual or group and the government or community as a whole.
When we encounter a narcissist, malignant narcissist, sociopath or psychopath, we are coming from our social norm context and the narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath lives outside that social contract and all the values and mutual respect that our social understanding is based upon.
It is easy to be trapped then, disarmed, by the narcissist, or psychopath, because we get fooled, charmed, beyond our own gut instincts and sense of feeling weird around someone like this. It is so important to know that breaking your social understanding is a skill you acquire and use when in the midst of a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath.
This is the most crucial time to believe what you feel. Believe that knowing that you might not want to follow, feel, or understand. Think about when and why and the indicators that betray the social contact . They will end up trapping you into unknowingly betraying yourself. Antisocial Personality Disordered individuals put you in varying degrees of harms way – if you don’t learn to recognize that you need first – over and above – social norms and empathy – to take care of yourself you may have or could walk right into that world of hurt.
Malignant Narcissists, Sociopath, and Psychopaths do not have any emotions. They do not have a conscience. They see people as objects to take supply and fuel from. They have no frame of reference, nor do they care, if they even know what they lack, for our emotions, our feelings, our social norms and values.
The more empathy you have for others, the more you need to be educated on these people and how they present and what that will feel like – both in how they can temporarily make you feel great in a very (unseen/unrealized) calculated way or ways and how much that will end up being used against you in extremely harmful and painful ways.
Learn to prepare for a Narcissist, Sociopath, or Psychopath (they live among us) and recognize them so that you can be prepared to suspend the social contract, your values and morals, have strong boundaries and limits by mindfully paying attention to how you sense something very wrong even if you partially feel great. And, know, it is not rude to walk away. You have that right. You need to do that. That is self-care first.
© A.J. Mahari, July 5, 2016 – All rights reserved.