Codependency is Rooted in Childhood – It’s Not Your Fault – Why you have Codependency is not your fault because nothing is ever a child’s fault. It is your responsibility now to get into therapy to heal and recover and
Borderline and Codependent Denial – The BPD “We” & The Codependent “They”
Borderlines and Codependents both have considerable denial. It’s not manifested in each groups lives the exact same way yet it underpins a lot of this most unhealthy bond. Online Borderlines often use “we” when they share their narrative (often not
BPD Discard – Is This It a Final Discard?
Do you have a girlfriend or boyfriend with suspected or diagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder? Have you been ghosted and/or discarded? Is it a final discard? How can you now? Listen to “BPD Breakup What is The BPD FINAL DISCARD? Go
Hypersexuality in BPD Women Part of The Who You Thought She Was Trauma Bond | Part 3
Hypersexuality in BPD Women Part of The Who You Thought She Was Trauma Bond Part 3 The intensity and hypersexuality of the untreated Borderline woman is only another part of the who-you-thought-she-was trauma bond. It Codependency Recovery after a BPD
Borderline Forever Ammunition Codependent Repetition Compulsions Trauma Bonds
Borderline Forever Ammunition Codependent Repetition Compulsions Trauma Bonds What is Borderline Forever Ammunition? It wounds and it is abuse. The Trauma Bond. Codependent Repetition Compulsions keep you in the double bind no-win trap of self-abandonment. Borderline Forever Ammunition is especially
Borderlines Don’t & Won’t Love You or Attach To You
Borderlines Don’t & Won’t Love You or Attach To You especially if untreated or not substantially treated over years. People with the trauma response the APA pathologizes and stigmatizes as Borderline Personality, have arrested early childhood development. People with BPD
What is Emotional Self Control?
What is emotional self control and why is it important? What skills does emotional self control require? How you can develop those skills and questions to ask yourself to self-reflect on what you may benefit from learning more about the
Life Isn’t Fair
This is a central negative core belief that so many people are often left with from childhood – that Life “Should” be Fair. Let go of this toxic dichotomy of “fair vs unfair” and take personal responsibility and ownership of
Connect To Self – Codependency Recovery
Codependency has its roots in childhood. It is deep. It is painful. It is an unhealthy relational pattern. Codependency is to varying degrees is a loss of self, a lack of self love, in childhood, emotionally. In response to adverse
BPD Emotional Radioactivity is Codependent Kryptonite
People with Borderline Personality or NPD are codependent kryptonite. They continue to hurt you where your inner child lives inside of you. They don’t consciously (more w/BPD) do this on purpose but it happens. Codependents need to focus on the
BPD NPD Relationship Breakup Recovery
With 32 years of experience working with people in recovery and healing from trauma bonded relationships (of any type) with a person with Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Personality Disorder or co-morbidly both, A.J. Mahari, can help you to let go,
Codependency vs Covert Narcissists
Codependents are not narcissists and narcissists – specifically the “pretending” to be “codependent” cover narcissists are not actually codependent. Many people have various differing opinions on this. I can see where some are coming from. However, just because to a
Key To Recovery After a Borderline or Narcissist
Many disagree as to what an Empath is versus a Codependent. Many psychologists note that empaths have codependency and are codependents. Some will say empaths have codependent tendencies. This debate back and forth really misses the central point. That is,
Narcissists Never Apologize – Don’t go down the rabbit hole
People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) never apologize. Why is that? How many times have you been down tumbling painfully down the rabbit hole of trying to be seen and heard when you have had your feelings hurt or your
The Only Protection from the BPD, NPD, or Psychopath
What is the only absolute and healthy protection from those with BPD, NPD, or ASPD – the sociopath or psychopath? It is not what you might think. This sure fire healthy way to really protect yourself isn’t about protection at
Are you an Object of Cluster B Supply? What to do?
Are you an object of a person or more than one person with a Cluster B Personality Disorder? Either Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Anti-Social Personality Disorder – the sociopath or psychopath? Do you realize that people with these
Social Norms vs The Psychopath Sociopath or Narcissist
The vast majority of us (often in spite of how our parents may well have failed us) learn the social norms, values, and morals of what form the basis of what is a social contract that we live within a
The Psychopath Next Door – What to do?
The Psychopath Next Door – I have a psychopathic neighbor and it is not comfortable, not safe, and the law can’t help me. So, what can I do? What would you do? What have you done with a psychopath neighbor
Borderline Narcissistic Psychopathic Love Bombing – Red Flags and How To Help Yourself
If you have been, or are being, love bombed by a person with Borderline Personality, Narcissistic Personality, or Anti-Social Personality (ASPD) – a sociopath or a psychopath this video describes what you need to recognize most to help yourself. People
Are you a Codependent? In a Painful Relationship?
Are you a codependent? Are you in a painful relationship? Are you a person who comes from a toxic or somewhat dysfunctional family of origin with a parent or parents with Borderline Personality Disorder that you are trying to help/rescue?