What are you or were you so afraid of when being abuse by the Narcissist, Borderline, or Psychopath? What was it that kept you or may still be keeping you from what you need to know now – so that you can break free and get on your recovery journey? What was it that you think/thought you “couldn’t stand” that may be blocking or still blocking you from breaking free and waking up to know that the only way out of the pain is through that pain. You deserve to take this healing journey. You are worthy of so much more than the abuser has/had you believing. What are you so afraid of? Many are afraid to be alone.
How did you get there? Abused by a narcissist, in any relational area in your life? It’s not your fault! However, it is now, your responsibility to free yourself, to start/continue to care enough about yourself. To realize what in your past may have been the unhealed or unknown pattern that once you were targeted had some kind of familiarity to it after the “bait-boming” love-bombing (or mask slip) happens.
After all the trauma and pain, it’s time for you to focus on yourself and your own healing – not focus more on the Narcissist abuser or trying to figure them out or understand why. That is a part of healing, but for many becomes an obsessional trying to understand at such a cost to you, having lost yourself, and now (maybe) still putting yourself second? It is your time now!
© A.J. Mahari, January 2018 – All rights reserved.