People, untreated, with Borderline Personality Disorder, cannot be emotionally intimate, in any relationship type, consistently, congruently, or age-appropriately. What is healthy emotional intimacy? Healthy emotional intimacy requires mutuality and reciprocity. It also requires the emotional intelligence and maturity to be
The Core of NPD & the Difference Between Overt & Covert Narcissists
What is at the heart or center of Narcissistic Personality Disorder? This central result of an intra-psychic narcissistic injury also reveals the core difference between overt and covert narcissists. © A.J. Mahari – All rights reserved (except quoted & noted
Reclaiming Self – BPD, NPD, ASPD Abuse Recovery
This is the at the centre of most of the pain and trauma of Narcissistic Abuse for those who are/have been victims or are on the path to or are now survivors. What is this? The need to reclaim the
Narcissistic Personality Disorder – Abuse in All Relationship Types
Narcissistic culture is breeding an epidemic of narcissism, yes, but, even more specifically here I am referring to the increasing epidemic of people with diagnosed or undiagnosed Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The reality of the exploding narcissistic culture that we all
Pet Loss and Grief – 7 Days Since My Cat Died
My beloved Calico Cat, Baylee, passed away, Wednesday December 21, 2016 at 3:30 pm. She had to be euthanized due to cancerous tumors. I am writing this blog one week exactly to the day and time that I lost Baylee.
Narcissists Never Apologize – Don’t go down the rabbit hole
People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) never apologize. Why is that? How many times have you been down tumbling painfully down the rabbit hole of trying to be seen and heard when you have had your feelings hurt or your
Co-Morbid Borderline Personality and Narcissistic Personality Disorders
Many people are diagnosed with and trying to live with or are seeking treatment for Borderline Personality (BPD). Many are diagnosed with and over-compensating to live with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Twenty-five percent of those diagnosed with BPD are also
Healing from Borderline Personality Narcissistic Personality Abuse – Loved Ones
Healing from the abuse of someone in your life with Borderline Personality Disorder and/or Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a very painful process. Not as painful as being abused is, however. It is a necessary though so that your mental and
Are you A Victim With or Of Borderline Personality Narcissistic Personality and/or Codependence?
Are you a person with Borderline Personality Disorder, or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or loved one of someone with BPD or NPD, a Codependent and you feel like a victim? Are you a victim? Feeling like a victim equals suffering.
Self Awareness is An Inside Job
Self-awareness that gets us and keeps us attuned to our own inner conscious self-awareness cannot rely upon mirror neurons. We actually, in adulthood, though we may have learned a lot about cooperation from mirror neurons are not served by the
Dare To Work On The Shame Blocking Your Vulnerability
Vulnerability is a strength – not a weakness. You need to dare greatly in order to work through your shame and emotional pain to clear out that shame from your past and let in the empowering freedom and wholeheartedness of
Difference Between a Sociopath and a Psychopath
[huge_it_share id=”1″]There are two forms of Anti Social Personality Disorder. One is sociopathy. The other is psychopathy. A person diagnosed with ASPD is either a sociopath or a psychopath. What is the difference you might wonder? Does any difference really
Mental Health Chat on Twitter Very Important
Great #mhchat on Twitter. Very important information and experience shared, along with great questions and resources. I’ll put up their website link here soon. You can post to this feed or go on twitter at the time of the chat
The Positive Power of So-Called Failure
What do you think first and most often when you hear the word failure? You probably are thinking that you’re not good enough and that you should give up. Do you ever find feeling that you’ve failed in a negative
Dissolving Past Pain and Moving Forward in Your Life
Are you stuck in patterns of relating in your adult relationships generally, romantic relationships more specifically that are causing you pain and leaving you experiencing failed relationships? Are you still holding onto past pain? Do you have unresolved childhood
Being Awake, Aware, and Involved In Your Life – Evolutionary Enlightenment
In the process of our own self growth and personal development we are all at varying stages of awakening to our evolutionary enlightenment. Do you seem to be going through the motions in your life? Do you feel like you
Where It All Began Again – Excerpt A.J. Mahari BPD Memoir
A.J. Mahari first heard those three words, Borderline Personality Disorder, in the dark ages of “treatment”, in 1975. At a time when most mental health professionals deemed Borderline Personality Disorder untreatable and spared little time in banishing those diagnosed with
Partners of BPD – Ex’s and/or On And Off Again – Why?
Life Coach, BPD and BPD Loved Ones Coach, and Author, A.J. Mahari works with loved ones and those with Borderline Personality and has been since 1997. In all of the sessions she’s had with Loved Ones of BPD – siblings,
Action Strategies to Help You Regulate Your Emotions
Many people, for many different reasons that stem from many different life experiences and unresolved childhood issues or trauma over-react often to things said to them, life, stress, inter-personal relational situations, and find it difficult to relate congruently and consistently
What You Focus on is What You will Experience
It might sound obvious to say that what you focus on will be what you experience. The point is, however, that so many people are focused on their experience, mainly, negative experience and/or negative feelings in their lives and confused
