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BPD Love is a Reverse FairyTale

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BPD Love is a Reverse FairyTale

What starts like a pseudo BPD relationships fairytale in reverse ends in emotional devastation—and you’re left wondering what happened. In this episode, I explore why relationships with someone with untreated Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and their supposed
“Love” feel and are experienced like a reverse fairytale: magical in the beginning, somewhere along the way, sooner or later, traumatic in the end or the many on-going unsuccessful ends in the trauma bond.

You’ll learn why the intense beginning isn’t real intimacy, isn’t real “love” and how idealization flips into devaluation, and why the cycle never leads to a “happily ever after.” This episode is a compassionate wake-up call for those still hoping to get back to “chapter one.” You get what you think is the “happy-ever-after” in the beginning and that starts to unravel into the exact opposite.

If you’ve been stuck in a looping pseudo love story that keeps breaking your heart, it’s time to understand the pattern—and reclaim your own narrative by breaking free of the quest to get back to the magical fairytale reverse beginning of idealization and intermittent reinforcement of a toxic love passed off as a  fantasy that you don’t want to admit now.

 
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