Many still need to free yourself from the past and live in the present. Living in the past can mean reliving either your previous victories or your past defeats. If you are living from and more focused on anything to
Embracing Personal Growth: What’s In It for You?
The pathway to personal growth embraced is at the center of the journey of your life. It awaits you consciously choosing it and implementing it in your own individual life. Achieve more harmonious peaceful and more stress-free mind balance – the
Getting Beyond Negative Patterns From Your Past
Many people, whether they are aware of it or not, are still significantly being impacted by relational, thinking, and/or behavioural patterns from their pasts. These patterns are highly defensive in nature. They keep blocked and stuck from further personal growth and personal
Emotional Intelligence Integral Part of Mind Balance
Emotional intelligence is an integral part of mind balance in action. A mind in balance is a mind that can flow with what is in each moment in a mindful and effective ways. This involves emotional regulation skills that are
Authenticity and The Authentic Self
[huge_it_share id=”1″]A.J. Mahari, Counselor, Author, Life Coach and Mental Health Coach, takes a look at what it truly means, in every day life to be seeking authenticity. Mahari believes that we are all in some aspect of attempting to actualize
Can’t Have What you Want?
[huge_it_share id=”1″]For many people with mental health challenges not getting what you want or not being able to have what you thought you wanted can be a very triggering and anger-producing dysregulated and overwhelming emotional place to be. It will
Introspection Helps One Heal, Recover, and Grow From Within – 6 Benefits
Life, with all its challenges, pain, difficulty and paradoxically co-existing beauty and ease is all about the learning experiences. Mistakes are growth opportunities and need not be feared. We have all made mistakes and we will all make more. The more open
Traits of a Healthy Relationship and Healthy Love
There is much written on what a healthy relationship is not. We write and talk a lot about the traits – personality traits of those with mental health challenges and unhealthy relating and relationships. It is equally as important to be
Are You Ready For a Healthy Relationship?
[huge_it_share id=”1″]How can you know, reasonably for sure, that you are ready for a healthy relationship? Perhaps people can’t in the sense they can know for sure that any new or beginning relationship will be healthy or not. What a
When No Contact as an Adult-Child Is Necessary
Counsellor, Life Coach, and Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari, is an adult-child of a Borderline Personality Disordered Mother and (until the time of his passing in 1997) she was also the daughter of a father with Borderline Personality Disorder and
Shopping as an Emotional Distraction
For all-too-many people with Mental Health Challenges, shopping has become a distraction meant to substitute for self-soothing, help people forget their worries and fears and emotional or physical pain and try to fill a psychological void with material things. This
Social Media, Internet and Real Life Balance
Social Media, like Twitter, Facebook, Youtube, Pinterest, etc, etc, have both positive and negatives in people’s lives. How can you tell what the effects of social media and/or time spent on the internet generally are in your own life? It
The Positive Power of So-Called Failure
What do you think first and most often when you hear the word failure? You probably are thinking that you’re not good enough and that you should give up. Do you ever find feeling that you’ve failed in a negative
The On-going Stigma of Mental Health
Mental Health – well really “they” call it “Mental Illness” Stigma is on-going and exacting a tremendously negative burden and price in many people’s lives. It is well-known and yet despite advocates and those trying very hard to dispel so
Being Awake, Aware, and Involved In Your Life – Evolutionary Enlightenment
In the process of our own self growth and personal development we are all at varying stages of awakening to our evolutionary enlightenment. Do you seem to be going through the motions in your life? Do you feel like you
Finding Your Buffalo
By Dzogchen Ponlop Rinpoche There is a story about a farmer who owns a buffalo. Not knowing that the buffalo is in its stable, the farmer goes off to search for it, thinking it has strayed from home. Starting off
Can You Ever Really “Go Home” Again?
Most people will be familiar with that old saying, “You can never go home again.” You know, go back to your old neighbourhood, or in my case, since my father got transferred many times in my growing up years, you
What You Focus on is What You will Experience
It might sound obvious to say that what you focus on will be what you experience. The point is, however, that so many people are focused on their experience, mainly, negative experience and/or negative feelings in their lives and confused
Who is Responsibile For Your Happiness?
Who is responsible for your happiness? Many people are seeking to find validation, fulfillment, and happiness from outside of themselves. From others or from what they do or what they have materialistically. Just who is responsible for your happiness? Have
