maladaptive way of trying to cope with dysregulated emotions that are not understood by those with BPD. In her latest Video Podcast Episode, A.J. Mahari talks about self harm in BPD and what the real harm of borderline self harm actually is.
A.J., herself, when she had BPD, years ago now, used to self harm. She knows from the inside out what the real harm of it is. Self harm in BPD does way more harm than the wounds or the scars visible on one’s body.
A central component in the self harm that those with Borderline Personality Disorder so often employ in attempts to cope with what Mahari calls their abandoned pain is the shame of abandonment.
Self harm in Borderline Personality Disorder does much more harm than many with BPD realize. If you have Borderline Personality Disorder, you really need to take personal responsibility and decide to make another choice. Self harm is a choice. It may well not feel like a choice, but it is a choice.
Self harm is a choice that many with BPD make due to the distorted way they often think and the reality that their polarized way of thinking blocks their ability to have and experience hope. Self harm becomes a habit. Self harm in BPD, in and of itself, can become an addiction.
Borderlines who self harm continue to live from the borderline false self when really what they will benefit from is stopping the self harm so that they can take the journey of recovery. The journey from false self to authentic self.
- BPD and Abandonment
- Preparing For Recovery From BPD
- Rage Addiction in Borderline Personality Disorder
- Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder The Lost Self The Impact of The Core Wound of Abandonment
- The Other Side of BPD – Mindfulness and Radical Acceptance for Non Borderlines
CLICK HERE to watch A.J. Mahari’s Video Podcast
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A.J. Mahari is a Life Coach who, among other things, specializes in working with those with BPD and non borderlines. A.J. has 5 years experience as a Life Coach and has worked with hundreds of clients from all over the world.
