Borderline Personality Disorder is not a “brain disease”. You can recover from Borderline Personality Disorder like I did. A.J. Mahari has a new audio out that features some of her experience from her own recovery as to what can keep people stuck and blocked from recovery and what is the focus, the way, and the direction to open to the process that makes recovery possible.
As an Author, Life Coach, BPD/Mental Health Coach, I know first-hand that recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder is very possible because I recovered from BPD in 1995. I also coach many clients with BPD that are in the active process of recovery now. I know what recovery from BPD is, means, looks like, feels like, and what it entails because I have been through it. And, an important point I want to stress for you to think about today, if you have BPD, is that when I recovered in 1995 – which was an unfolding process over eight years that culminated in recovery as the result of a 7 month out-patient group therapy experience that was eclectic but mainly based in Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) – I did not take psychiatric medication. This is how and why I know that medication, while it can be helpful in some cases, for some period of limited time in conjunction with therapy, is not in any way what makes or breaks recovery.
Are you normal? Do the concepts of Mental Health and Mental Illness serve any purpose other than to divide people arbitrarily and cause people shame that alienates them from themselves? Does psychiatry today, and more specifically biopsychiatry even believe that anyone is or can be normal? What is normal? Many argue that biopsychiatry – the direction the psychiatric profession is taking in defining mental illlness as “brain disorder” or “brain disease” and then seeking to treat it with all kinds of medications, many that do way more harm than good, is predicated on labeling almost everyone with something which calls into question just what disordered means. Dr. John Breeding Ph.D. was my guest on The Psyche Whisperer Radio Show, Wednesday August 4th, live at 3pm EST. You can now listen to the archived interview here. Dr. Breeding talked about, among other things, psychiatric oppression and what mental health consumers really do need to know and think more about when it comes to what mental illness is and how it can be most effectively treated and coped with if it even is what it is thought by so many people to be. What are the implications of biopsychiatry for people given the label and diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder?
Do people diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder play mind games? Life coach and author, A.J. Mahari, who herself, recovered from BPD 15 years ago answers this question based upon her own life experience and her experience coaching hundreds of clients with BPD and who are loved ones of those with BPD.
Life Coach and BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, talks about the good news of the pain that is so formidable in Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). For most people with BPD there is a profound amount of emotional pain. Pain that isn’t well tolerated. Pain that they do not have the emotional maturity or emotional skills to effectively cope with in healthy ways. Pain is not the negative that most with BPD think it is and experience it as being. It is experienced negatively because it is thought of and perceived as being negative.
In her latest Borderline Personality Disorder Inside Out podcast episode, Life and BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari talks about what she calls the core wound of abandonment and the negative impact that creates in the lives of those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). People with BPD need to find hope from the polarized negativity of BPD. Polarized negativity that has its roots in unresolved abandonment. Abandonment negativity impacts hope for those who have BPD and for their loved ones.
A.J. Mahari, author, Life/BPD/Emotional Mastery Coach educates on the subject of emotional mastery in general, specifically related to those with Borderline Personality Disorder and their loved ones – non borderlines as well as her Emotional Mastery Life Coaching.
Triggers in those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) cause intense emotional dysregulation. Author, BPD and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari sheds a very revealing light on the fact that borderline triggers when faced, instead of avoided, can be gateways to recovery. Borderline triggers are open wounds that seek to help in the healing and recovery process. They can only help you if you let them. They can only help you if you are ready, willing, and able to face the pain that remains unresolved from past abandonment and/or trauma. The very pain that drives the triggered experience of those with BPD.
A.J. Mahari’s Borderline Diary – My Borderline Years – Mirror Without Reflection – My borderline mother, my mirror without reflection. My borderline mother, blank face, blank stare – angry. Always so angry. How many more times will you reach out to her only to be abandoned again. Only to be rendered just a little more invisible? How many times? She hurts me. I hate her. She hates me. I love her. I hate her. I need her. I can’t stand this.
Borderline splitting and loved ones understanding – If you are a loved one, family member or relationship partner of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, A.J. Mahari, mental health and life coach, in an audio program talks about Borderline Splitting to help loved ones better understand it and the reality that they really cannot rescue someone with Borderline Personality Disorder.
At the heart of the process of recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder is the need to find one’s lost self – an authentic self that has been lost to the core wound of abandonment in BPD. BPD recovery requires first asking the question, Who am I? Secondly, it requires finding the answer to that question.
People with Borderline Personality Disorder are being asked to participate in a survey to help researchers with identifying what criteria should or perhaps shouldn’t be included in the upcoming 5th edition of the Diagnositic Statisitical Manuel (DSM) in 2012.
Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder is possible. BPD is treatable. Yet stigma remains a major obstacle to this recovery for many in different parts of the world. Stigma is still prevalent in 2009. Why?
Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder has two main ingredients, gaining more insight about choices made and learning to make new choices, as well as learning how to take personal responsibility. For those with BPD, taking personal responsibility means facing their abandoned pain understanding that continuing to try to avoid that pain will only keep them stuck. This journey from one’s abandoned pain and a victim mentality that doesn’t “emotionally” understand choices made and new choices that need to be made, is the journey From False Self to Authentic Self.
People with Borderline Personality Disorder lack emotional skin. Does this preclude the balanced concept of tough love for loved ones? Whose responsibility is this lack of emotional skin? Do loved ones of those with BPD have to bend over backwards, accomodate inappropriate behaviour that doesn’t respect boundaries, and walk on eggshells?
Borderline Personality Disorder is thought to be caused by a combination of biological and environmental factors – nature versus nurture. Now scientists are finding that cognitive training can alter brain chemistry. This is what I’ve long since known as I experienced this in my own recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. The good news for those with BPD is that regardless of the degree to which brain chemistry may be altered (yet to really be proven) the fact is that therapy, specifically cognitive based therapy can alter brain chemistry and create the changes required in thinking to recover from Borderline Personality Disorder.
Self harm in Borderline Personality Disorder is a maladaptive way of trying to cope with dysregulated emotions that are not understood by those with BPD. In her latest Video Podcast Episode, A.J. Mahari talks about self harm in BPD and what the real harm of borderline self harm actually is.
Author, Life Coach and Strategist, A.J. Mahari, in a video recorded in August of 2007, talks about her choice to recover from BPD – why she made that choice. Mahari also talks about how you can make that choice today, if you have BPD, and you haven’t already made a committed choice to get into the kind of professional help that can and will lead you to the road of recovery from BPD.
Author, Life Coach and Strategist A.J. Mahari talks about magical thinking in Borderline Personality Disorder and how family members and loved ones experience it. It is a rather common experience for non borderlines to encounter and be confused by borderline “magical thinking”.
Those who are diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder have at the roots of their insecure attachment a rage that is often the source of so much abusive behaviour. Insecure attachment, one of the major root causes of BPD, leaves those with BPD recreating the ruptured relating they experienced that caused their emotional development to arrest resulting in the lost self – the loss of authentic self that is then supplanted by a false self that has no understanding of healthy or consistent relating.