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Borderline Man Unmasked

Borderline Man Unmasked     Listen to “Borderline Man Unmasked” on Spreaker.   © A.J. Mahari, September 15, 2025 – All rights reserved.

A.J. Mahari September 15, 2025 Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups No Comments Read more

The Borderline Set Up Hoover

The Borderline *Set Up* Hoover The Borderline set up hoover is unlike any other type or generic “average” hoover. The Borderline set up hoover is one that is your BPD Ex plotting to punish you (especially the female borderline vs

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Why Don’t Borderlines Just Get It?

Why don’t borderlines just get it, how to have their own boundaries and understand their feelings even with initial therapy can’t they just get it? Are you falsely hoping someone in your life with untreated BPD just get it? What

A.J. Mahari October 9, 2023October 9, 2023 Surviving BPD Relationship Breakup No Comments Read more

Trauma Bonding With a Borderline – What Codependents Need To Know

Trauma Bonding With a Borderline – What Codependents Need To Know Betrayal or trauma bonding with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder is how these relationships between Borderlines and Codependents dysfunction. It’s why they are so painful. It’s why they are

A.J. Mahari September 17, 2023 Surviving BPD Relationship Breakup No Comments Read more

BPD Idealization to Devaluation To Rumination & Ruination – Get Off The BPD Rollercoaster

BPD Idealization to Devaluation To Rumination & Ruination – Get Off The BPD Rollercoaster BPD idealization is the beginning of the intense fast-paced relationship and it is also unconsciously for both the Borderline and the person dating or in love

A.J. Mahari September 15, 2023 Surviving BPD Relationship Breakup No Comments Read more

Borderlines Want What (Who) They Want – Get It (You) Then Don’t Want It (You) Anymore

Borderlines Want What (Who) They Want – Get It (You) Then Don’t Want It (You) Anymore  Borderlines want what (who) they want until they get what the want (or you) then they don’t want what they wanted (you) anymore. This

A.J. Mahari September 9, 2023 Surviving BPD Relationship Breakup No Comments Read more

BPD Idealization Devaluation Cycles – “Get-Away Closer” BPD Push/Pull

BPD idealization is not as real as BPD devaluation. Both result from the core relational impairment of the Approach Avoidance Conflict in BPD – It’s the push-pull “get-away closer” that cannot and will not ever change until and unless each

A.J. Mahari August 27, 2023 Surviving BPD Relationship Breakup No Comments Read more

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