Life Coach, A.J. Mahari, has come to realize, in all of her year of personal growth and Life Coaching others that Common Denominator Experiences are touchstones of awareness seeking to get and engage your attention. These moments are teachers in
Coping With Difficult Toxic and/or Abusive People
In the audio program, “Coping With Difficult Toxic and/or Abusive People” A.J. Mahari talks about the reality of coping with difficult, toxic and/or abusive people generally with a focus on the reality that holidays bring out the worst of the worst in toxic relating.
A.J. Mahari’s Audio Segment on Being an Adult Child of a mother with Borderline Personality Disorder
Author, Life Coach and Strategist, A.J. Mahari, a woman who recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder over a decade ago, talks about various issues of Borderline Personality Disorder for those with BPD and for family members, loved ones, ex or relationships partners of those with BPD (non borderlines) in audio segments on her website.
A.J. Mahari Interviewed about BPD on the Page2Pantry Radio Show
A.J. Mahari was a guest on the Page2Pantry radio show hosted by Niki Guluchi on KPFK on the subject of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) along with a woman, Wendy, who is recovering from having been in a relationship with a man who has BPD.
Intimacy With Someone Who Has Borderline Personality Disorder?
Is intimacy possible with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? Can you really create a bond with someone with BPD? Family members and relationship partners of those with BPD as well as friends often find out that those with BPD are not capable of achieving or sustaining a healthy bond.
A.J. Mahari’s Ebooks and Audio Programs and more at phoenixrisingpublications.ca
A.J. Mahari has recently launched her new website, Phoenix Rising Publications where you can purchase her Ebooks, Audio Programs, Life Coaching Services, Self Help Courses, and Educational Videos.
As an Adult Child of Borderline Parents I had to Choose No Contact
As an adult-child of a parent (or in my case parents) with Borderline Personality Disorder the love that is so scarce is toxic and the relationship is enmeshed as the child exists to serve the endless emotional needs of the borderline.
Borderline Personality – The Surrender of Radical Acceptance
For those who have been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) the surrender of Radical Acceptance can mean the difference between getting on the road to recovery or remaining stuck in the active and very painful throes of BPD.
Those With Borderline Personality Disorder And Hearing What Others Are Saying
If you have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) you may well be ignorning or not taking seriously a wealth of information that is available to you. Sometimes the most valuable thing a borderline can do is delay, if not stop, protecting, reacting, and coming to his or her own defense and just sit with what others are saying to you.
Borderline – Non Borderline Common Ground
Those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and their family members, relationship partners – non borderlines – have intersecting reality where common ground is encountered. This common ground, however, is not experienced in the same way by the borderline and the non borderline.
Splitting and The Non Borderline Experience of BPD
Splitting is a primitive defense mechanism that borderlines routinely enact when they are triggered by events/emotions in the here and now that threaten their feeling anything to do with their original core wound of abandonment and the intrapsychic trauma associated with that abandonment.
Ending a Relationship With Someone With BPD – Contact or No Contact? – Nons
Ending a relationship with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder means having to figure out what to do about having contact or going no contact.
Can Non Borderlines Learn To Speak The Emotional Language of Those With BPD? – Nons
Would a Non Borderline communicating his/her boundaries to a borderline (even he or she could) by attempting to speak the emotional language of the borderline be more successful?
Re-Think Borderline Personality Disorder
I think there is a tremendous need for those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder to re-think BPD. I think also that those who are family members, friends, relationship or ex-relationship partners – non borderlines – also need to re-think BPD.
Acceptance of Paradox is The Epicenter of Recovery in Borderline Personality Disorder
It is the acceptance of the paradoxical irony of the core wound of abandonment coupled with the the abandoned pain of BPD that is the very nature of the reality of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) that is at both its cause and at its epicenter of recovery.
The Deeper Hunger of the Borderline – Affect Hunger and The Shame of Abandonment
The traits of Borderline Personality Disorder in those diagnosed with BPD manifest themselves as a defensive response to a profoundly deep and enduring hunger. This deeper hunger is brought about by a proliferation of insatiability as the result of the woundedness of that results from the shame of abandonment which has many causes.
Non Borderlines Trying to Understand Borderline Magical Thinking
What is Magical Thinking In BPD?
Magical thinking is essentially adhering to the (distorted) belief that thoughts can cause events. When someone with BPD is magically thinking and thoughts seem to cause events what is also often a part of this experience for the borderline is that what they feel becomes a fact to him or her in what is a distorted sense of “reality”.
Borderline Personality Disorder – An Intractable Brain Disorder?
There is considerable stigma and a prevalant attitude among many professionals, let alone people diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), that BPD is intractable and cannot be recovered from.
There are many theories as to the cause of BPD that are being forwarded by professionals. There is even an on-going debate about what BPD should really be called. There is this energy invested in all of the theories, all of the ideas about what this mental illness challenge is called or should be called to the point that the related distractions for those with BPD may in fact be blocking their chances for recovery.
