As complicated as Borderline Personality Disorder is and as profound an effect as it has on both those diagnosed with it and anyone who is close to them – there is hope. Hope for the person with BPD to come to a place where they can take personal responsibility and get themselves some professional help. There is also hope for those who love someone with BPD whether or not the relationship can be worked out.
The main thing to remember if you have BPD is that you really do need to find a therapist to work with to help you onto the road to recovery. The main thing to be aware of and remember if you care about someone (or did care about someone with BPD) is that it is not possible to rescue or change the person with Borderline Personality Disorder. The hope that exists for those with BPD is hope that they have to become aware of and actualize themselves. Non borderlines cannot rescue borderlines. As a Life Coach I have worked with and continue to work with many non borderlines who have a very difficult time accepting that they cannot rescue a loved one with BPD.
They have a very difficult time with their own pain and confusion – with what is a non borderline woundedness that truly does mean that those who are in or who have been in relationships (chosen or unchosen) with someone with BPD really do need their own recovery. They need to Break Free From the BPD Maze realize the scope and reality of the dilemma on the other side of BPD by overcoming their denial about BPD and love and by coming to a deeper understanding of the Puzzle and Mystery of Hope on the other side of BPD so that they can free themselves from what often becomes an obsessive focus on the borderline. An obsessive focus that only further contributes the non borderlines loss of self.
I hope that you will benefit from listening to my audio segments and if you want to know more and hear more in much more detail about my own experience and the insight I share on many aspects of BPD you can also check out my Audio Programs and Ebooks and check back there for new and up-coming Ebooks and Audios coming soon.
© A.J. Mahari, December 7, 2008
A.J. Mahari is a Life Coach who, among other things, specializes in working with those with BPD and non borderlines. A.J. has 5 years experience as a Life Coach and has worked with hundreds of clients from all over the world.