Is intimacy possible with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? Can you really create a bond with someone with BPD? If you do create a bond with someone with BPD can it include intimacy? What is the likely quality of it and outcome of it? Family members and relationship partners of those with BPD as well as friends often find out that those with BPD are not capable of achieving or sustaining a healthy bond.
Borderlines have trouble bonding or attaching to a partner without feeling as if their psychological existence is threatened. Unless those with BPD are successfully treated and successfully address the core wound of abandonment that is so central to BPD, intimacy is just too stressful and causes those with BPD to fragment, regress, act out, or cling to others in ways that promote the re-living of the abandonment most feared and that also support ruptured toxic relational styles – not healthy intimacy.
Non borderlines really need to learn the reality and truth about borderline love and how to overcome any misunderstandings, misconceptions, or misgivings about the toxic love of the borderline false self.
