People, untreated, with Borderline Personality Disorder, cannot be emotionally intimate, in any relationship type, consistently, congruently, or age-appropriately. What is healthy emotional intimacy? Healthy emotional intimacy requires mutuality and reciprocity. It also requires the emotional intelligence and maturity to be
Borderline Forever Ammunition Codependent Repetition Compulsions Trauma Bonds
Borderline Forever Ammunition Codependent Repetition Compulsions Trauma Bonds What is Borderline Forever Ammunition? It wounds and it is abuse. The Trauma Bond. Codependent Repetition Compulsions keep you in the double bind no-win trap of self-abandonment. Borderline Forever Ammunition is especially
Borderlines Don’t & Won’t Love You or Attach To You
Borderlines Don’t & Won’t Love You or Attach To You especially if untreated or not substantially treated over years. People with the trauma response the APA pathologizes and stigmatizes as Borderline Personality, have arrested early childhood development. People with BPD
Why BPD Narrative Sets Up Loved Ones – Devaluation Ends Relationships
The narrative of many people with Borderline Personality sets up loved ones – validate – understand – BPD splitting – Devaluation ends relationships. People with BPD are (often subconsciously) seeking rescue. They don’t see you, they don’t attach to you.
After Narcissistic or Borderline Abuse – Difficulty of Finding Support and Understanding
Known as Cluster B Personality Disorders in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM 5) the “bible of psychiatry” (for what it is worth) includes Borderline Personality, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and Anti-Social Personality Disorder (psychopaths & sociopaths). These diagnoses are not
Loved Ones of BPD Protect Your Health When Borderline Rages
Many people with Borderline Personality Disorder are triggered often, causing the idealization split to rapidly become a devaluing split that comes with the emotional dysregulation of externalized aggression, RAGE. After the suicide of my partner, 4 months ago, today, I
15 Signs It’s Time To End a Toxic Relationship
A.J. Mahari’s YouTube Channel over 600+ Videos and her Audio Podcast Videos People with mental health challenges, Borderline Personality, Narcissistic Personality, other personality disorders manipulate your feelings and fool you as you fall in love with them. Narcissists
The Core of Narcissistic Personality – Overt/Covert Difference
In this podcast episode, also, uploaded to my Youtube Channel I talk about what is the central core of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. And what that central core pathology means to how and why narcissists do what they do. Why they
Does the Narcissist Just Turn Off “The Love Button?”
People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder – narcissists, though they have some differences are so universally patterned in their behaviour and the ways that they target victims and abuse them. What happened many wonder as the shock of reality starts to
The Only Protection from the BPD, NPD, or Psychopath
What is the only absolute and healthy protection from those with BPD, NPD, or ASPD – the sociopath or psychopath? It is not what you might think. This sure fire healthy way to really protect yourself isn’t about protection at
Borderline Narcissistic Psychopathic Love Bombing – Red Flags and How To Help Yourself
If you have been, or are being, love bombed by a person with Borderline Personality, Narcissistic Personality, or Anti-Social Personality (ASPD) – a sociopath or a psychopath this video describes what you need to recognize most to help yourself. People
Narcissistic Personality Disordered Misogynist Males Abuse of Women They Claim to Love
Narcissistic abuse is devastating. Any and all of it. Narcissists leave untold damage to be healed and dealt with by those they claim to “love”. Narcissists have no idea what healthy love is. For many women the first Narcissistic Personality
Healing from Borderline Personality Narcissistic Personality Abuse – Loved Ones
Healing from the abuse of someone in your life with Borderline Personality Disorder and/or Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a very painful process. Not as painful as being abused is, however. It is a necessary though so that your mental and
Are you a Codependent? In a Painful Relationship?
Are you a codependent? Are you in a painful relationship? Are you a person who comes from a toxic or somewhat dysfunctional family of origin with a parent or parents with Borderline Personality Disorder that you are trying to help/rescue?
Gaslighting Abuse of Narcissistic Personality Disorder – For Loved Ones
Narcissistic Personality Disordered people gaslight their love ones and those closest to them in attempts to meet their own narcissistic supply needs. Gaslighting is a method of psychological abuse and it is very confusing and wounding. All-too-often, so many who
Narcissists aren’t born; they are made
This article is from CNN and written by and copyright Ruben Navarrette, March 13, 2015 Ruben Navarrette is a CNN contributor and a nationally syndicated columnist with the Washington Post Writers Group. Follow him on Twitter: @rubennavarrette. The opinions expressed
Authenticity and The Authentic Self
[huge_it_share id=”1″]A.J. Mahari, Counselor, Author, Life Coach and Mental Health Coach, takes a look at what it truly means, in every day life to be seeking authenticity. Mahari believes that we are all in some aspect of attempting to actualize
Are You Ready For a Healthy Relationship?
[huge_it_share id=”1″]How can you know, reasonably for sure, that you are ready for a healthy relationship? Perhaps people can’t in the sense they can know for sure that any new or beginning relationship will be healthy or not. What a
Difference Between a Sociopath and a Psychopath
[huge_it_share id=”1″]There are two forms of Anti Social Personality Disorder. One is sociopathy. The other is psychopathy. A person diagnosed with ASPD is either a sociopath or a psychopath. What is the difference you might wonder? Does any difference really
Dissolving Past Pain and Moving Forward in Your Life
Are you stuck in patterns of relating in your adult relationships generally, romantic relationships more specifically that are causing you pain and leaving you experiencing failed relationships? Are you still holding onto past pain? Do you have unresolved childhood
