BPD Idealization to Devaluation To Rumination & Ruination – Get Off The BPD Rollercoaster BPD idealization is the beginning of the intense fast-paced relationship and it is also unconsciously for both the Borderline and the person dating or in love
Borderlines Want What (Who) They Want – Get It (You) Then Don’t Want It (You) Anymore Borderlines want what (who) they want until they get what the want (or you) then they don’t want what they wanted (you) anymore. This
Borderline Idealization Not Real Love. What people experience and feel in idealization honeymoon phase is just not real but it feels *amazing*. Who you fall in love with is not even a real person because BPD idealization is not real
BPD Breakup The Emptiness of BPD Relationship Recycling Trauma Bonded Situationships BPD Relationship Breakups and the emptiness of recycling T Bond Relationships increases your codependency and only worsens how you actually feel. These relationships with people with the patterns of
BPD Relationship Recycling Getting Your BPD Ex Back is Recycling The Trauma Bond BPD relationship recycling between people with BPD and their partner/ex-partner person with Codependency getting the BPD Ex back are really recycling the core trauma bond that is
People untreated with Borderline Personality Disorder use people. Many may be aware of this and many more are likely not aware consciously. They are not emotionally capable of loving you, receiving you love or attaching to you. Borderlines are often
People with Borderline Personality Disorder, especially untreated, often get into trauma bonded relationships with non-borderlines more often than not who have Codependency. The beginning of the relationship is amazing! The person with BPD idealizes you, mirrors you, and from their
The Borderline Red Herring Fallacy is experienced by anyone close to a person with Borderline Personality. Especially BPD partners, on/off recycling relationships, BPD Hoovers or your reverse hoovers. What does the Borderline Red Herring Fallacy have to do with Codependents?
Malignant Borderline Psychopaths? – 8 Traits & 4 C’s of Differentiation From BPD
The words “Malignant Borderline” don’t have any meaning or specific context and absolutely no clinic reference whatsoever yet a therapist out there used them and also called people with BPD “monsters” – Great “professional” look eh? People with BPD may
The Suicide Tunnel – Applies to BPD Suicidality Too Feeling Suicidal Right Now? Read This First
Do you think that whatever is difficult or beyond difficult in your life first requires some magical answer that will change everything for you? Many people, without realizing it, “think” or feel this way. It is a natural reaction, in
I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). I was treated for BPD. I recovered from BPD. One thing has remained a constant throughout all the years of my life and all of my healing – I am the adult-child of a mother with Borderline Personality Disorder.
I had BPD and I recovered. My mother and father had BPD and they did not recover at all. I know the pain on both sides of BPD.
Toxic relationships are proliferating in what is a narcissistic cultural landscape. Are these relationships mistakes? If a toxic relationship is a mistake I would argue that once you begin to learn from it and let it teach you that it
Rigid thought patterns in Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) are one of the central manifestations of all that Borderline Personality is and means in the lives of those who have been diagnosed with it. Loved ones and family members are often hurt and confused by these rigid thought patterns also. BPD Coach A.J. Mahari identifies three main reasons why people with BPD have such rigid thought patterns. These rigid thought patterns actually trap people in the active throes of BPD until and unless they get professional help to begin to learn how to think beyond the constricted magical thinking of a primitive concept of cause and effect. Primitive concepts of cause and effect that along with rigid thought patterns are at the center of The Legacy of Abandonment in BPD A legacy of abandonment that is the central cause of Rage in BPD.
A.J. Mahari, author, Life/BPD/Emotional Mastery Coach educates on the subject of emotional mastery in general, specifically related to those with Borderline Personality Disorder and their loved ones – non borderlines as well as her Emotional Mastery Life Coaching.
Biopsychiatry is all the rage these days isn’t it? How have mental illnesses, like Borderline Personality Disorder, and so many others, suddenly become pathologized beyond belief with a new stigma – “brain disorder” – the message that implies the need for pharmaceuticals. A message that the National Association of Mental Health (NAMI) in the United States has forwarded. As if drugs are, or will someday be, the “cure”. As if drugs are the answer. Says who? Who do you believe?
Borderlines are incapable of intimacy which leaves loved ones and family members – non borderlines -experiencing borderline push-pull which can be crazy-making. By the very nature of BPD, borderlines as the result of their defense mechanisms of splitting, projection, and narcissism, can’t help but push-pull. When those with untreated Borderline Personality Disorder try to get close to someone – attain emotional intimacy – they immediately fear engulfment so they push away or push the non borderline away.
Is there a cure for Borderline Personality Disorder? (BPD) How can you evaluate online information that promises to tell you about a cure if you buy a product or a certain book about a cure? Can you trust pitches that claim to tell you that they can cure BPD? Are they sales pitches or reality? Can loved ones of those with BPD trust pitches that promise to help them save relationships by purchasing information that advertises the cure for BPD or claims that someone has “solved” BPD in some nice neat across-the-board way?