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If you are a loved one – a non borderline – with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder in your life, A.J. Mahari, life coach and strategist, a woman who has recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder, in an audio program talks about borderline splitting to provide loved ones with a greater understanding of both borderline splitting and the reality that loved ones, non borderlines, cannot rescue someone with Borderline Personality Disorder.

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Borderline Splitting is the defense mechanism that is responsible for how those with BPD often idealize loved ones and family members, even therapists, as all-good or devalue them as all-bad in cyclical ways. This splitting is  also the reason that when the borderline is triggered into emotional dysregulation by stress or feelings they don't know how to cope with borderlines can just as quickly devalue loved ones, family members, therapists, and even themselves. Borderline Splitting, cycles of idealization followed by devaluation are also often turned inward on "self" by those with BPD. Borderlines may feel strong at one point in a day, good about themselves, and then suddenly shift to feeling depressed, hopeless, empty, and devalue themselves as well. This borderline splitting profoundly effects those who have someone with BPD in their lives.

© A.J. Mahari, January 31, 2009

A.J. Mahari is a Life Coach who, among other things, specializes in working with those with BPD and non borderlines. A.J. has 5 years experience as a Life Coach and has worked and continues to work with hundreds of clients from all over the world.

Borderline Splitting and Loved Ones Inability To Rescue