Many with Borderline Personality spend much of their lives running and hiding from triggers. Some refuse therapy. Others struggle to engage it. Why? Because of the fear of the feelings – painful, scary overwhelming feelings that trigger them to emotional dysregulation. It is this very being triggered, and learning how to cope with the feelings that is the way to actively engage treatment to be able to engage in what is not a short, slow, or one year of DBT alone process of recovery.
Triggers produce intense emotional dysregulation in those with BPD that take them partially out of the here and now and unfold for them psychologically unresolved abandonment/attachment trauma from the past superimposed upon the reality of what is actually unfolding in fully in the here and now. This leads to fragmented experience. Experience that needs to better understood by those with BPD.
With professional support, learning to face triggers, and the pain they seek to help you become more aware of and resolve is a major part of the process of recovery from BPD. What you don’t acknowledge can’t be healed. What you resist will continue to persist. The way to BPD recovery is by facing the pain that is in the way. That very primal pain that arrested your early childhood development. It has been protected against ever since because you fear what it did to you happening all over again.
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