When a BPD girlfriend or BPD Boyfriend wants space it is a slow split to devaluation and ghosting – Now what? What does this mean? Is it over? Is it a final discard? What is a slow split to devaluation and ghosting anyway?
Not all people with Borderline Personality Disorder are the same. Even untreated, they do not all have a rapid, sudden, split to devaluation that leads to ghosting. Many do but many don’t.
If your BPD girlfriend, wife, boyfriend, husband, wants space, and is manifesting the slow split to devaluation and ghosting for the first time, or in a patterned way, you can’t really know if it’s a final ghosting or a discard for a period of time, In the meantime I help people who book sessions with me to understand this better and to learn coping strategy to help you as you try to understand what is happening and what it may mean for your near future, or not.