Parents of Those with BPD – What to do?

Parents of a teen or adult-child who has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder often feel guilty. There are cases where there has been neglect, abandonment, or abuse, and then there are cases where someone who did the best they could and did not abuse a child ends up with a teen or young adult-child who is diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder.

Does Your Pain Justify Judging the Borderline Family Member in Your Life As Being Evil?

If you have a family member with Borderline Personality Disorder, does your pain – very real pain – justify judging the borderline in your life as being evil? If you can “paint” them as evil does that make your life easier? Does that change your experience? Does that fix your relationship?

Borderline Splitting & Non Borderlines Inability to Rescue

A major defense mechanism for those who have Borderline Personality Disorder is that of splitting. Non borderlines cannot rescue borderlines. Splitting is one of the central realities in relationship to someone with BPD that hooks, traps, hurts and devastates non borderlines often seeing them try harder and harder to rescue the person with BPD in their lives. A non borderline cannot rescue a borderline.