The adult-child of a borderline parent need to, if he or she hasn’t already, take his or her own life back. What does that mean? What does that look like? How does one do that?
Nobody Said Good-bye – Closure as an adult child of a borderline parent
I am the adult-child of two borderline parents. How can one get closure when the borderline parent(s) don’t get help or ever change? In my experience, nobody said or waved good-bye but the loss had already taken place, oh so long ago.
A.J Mahari on Video On BPD for Those with Borderline Personality Disorder
A.J. Mahari, author, life coach and strategist, on video talking about the issues and challenges that those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder face. Mahari stresses that recovery is possible and that there is hope for recovery.
Abandonment is Central In Borderline Personality Disorder
Abandonment trauma, regardless of the cause or causes of Borderline Personality Disorder is the most central issue that borderlines grapple with, sometimes on a daily basis.
Borderline Splitting & Non Borderlines Inability to Rescue
A major defense mechanism for those who have Borderline Personality Disorder is that of splitting. Non borderlines cannot rescue borderlines. Splitting is one of the central realities in relationship to someone with BPD that hooks, traps, hurts and devastates non borderlines often seeing them try harder and harder to rescue the person with BPD in their lives. A non borderline cannot rescue a borderline.
The False Self and The Spiral of Loss in Borderline Personality Disorder
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is the experience of living from one’s false self trapped within the spiral of past losses that obliterate the experience of relational moments in the “here and now”.
Lack of Object Constancy In BPD
Lack of object constancy in Borderline Personality Disorder is at the heart of borderline abandonment trauma and repeated relationship rupture.
The Circles That Surround The Epicentre of Borderline Personality Disorder
There are countless circles that surround the epicentre of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). These circles are, in large part, dangerous distractions for those who have been diagnosed with BPD.
Non Borderlines Trying to Understand Borderline Magical Thinking
What is Magical Thinking In BPD?
Magical thinking is essentially adhering to the (distorted) belief that thoughts can cause events. When someone with BPD is magically thinking and thoughts seem to cause events what is also often a part of this experience for the borderline is that what they feel becomes a fact to him or her in what is a distorted sense of “reality”.
The Borderline Dance & The Non Borderline Quagmire
There is a central truth about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). It is a truth that is all-too real and painful for both those diagnosed with BPD and those who are family members, relationship partners (ex – relationship partners) children or parents or friends of those with BPD (non borderlines).
Borderline Personality Disorder creates layered situations from which extrication is very difficult. This is true for the borderline or the non borderline.
There is a dance that takes place between those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder(borderlines) and those who try to relate to them (non borderlines). It is painful. The reality of Borderline Personality Disorder in a loved one, partner, family member, or friend, sets up a toxic and painful quagmire for the non borderline.
