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The Invisible Borderline Man – Why Women Don’t See Him Coming

The Invisible Borderline Man – Why Women Don’t See Him Coming   Listen to “The Invisible Borderline Man Why Women Don't See Him Coming” on Spreaker.   ©A.J. Mahari, September 20, 2025 – All rights reserved.

A.J. Mahari September 20, 2025 Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups No Comments Read more

Borderline Man Unmasked

Borderline Man Unmasked     Listen to “Borderline Man Unmasked” on Spreaker.   © A.J. Mahari, September 15, 2025 – All rights reserved.

A.J. Mahari September 15, 2025 Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups No Comments Read more

BPD Frustration Intolerance

BPD Frustration Intolerance   Listen to “BPD Frustration Intolerance” on Spreaker.   © A.J. Mahari, August 17, 2025 – All rights reserved.

A.J. Mahari August 18, 2025August 18, 2025 Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups No Comments Read more

BPD Mirror Holds No Internal Reflection You are *Unseen* – BPD “Bad Object” Emotional Mug Shot of You

BPD Mirror Holds No Internal Reflection You are *Unseen*             BPD “Bad Object” Emotional Mug Shot of You   Listen to “BPD Mirror Holds No Internal Reflection You are Unseen” on Spreaker.   © A.J.

A.J. Mahari August 10, 2025August 10, 2025 Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups No Comments Read more

BPD Ego Syntonic vs Ego Dystonic & BPD Alloplastic Defenses

BPD Ego Syntonic vs Ego Dystonic and BPD Alloplastic Defenses     Listen to “BPD Ego Syntonic vs Ego Dystonic & BPD Alloplastic Defenses” on Spreaker.   © A.J. Mahari – July 21, 2025. All rights reserved.  

A.J. Mahari August 3, 2025 Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups No Comments Read more

BPD ABUSE – Borderline Externalized Aggression

Not all with BPD are the same. Some will never be violent. A smaller percentage of both Men with BPD and women with BPD can be violent physically. Male and Female Borderlines Abuse in many ways. What has been your

A.J. Mahari December 20, 2020December 20, 2020 Borderline Personality, BPD Abuse No Comments Read more

BPD Apology & Hoover “Apology”

The Borderline Apology can be felt but for many with BPD it won’t change their behavior or have consistent meaning. People with BPD can mean they are sorry but often apologize to “make things okay” and resent it later feeling

A.J. Mahari April 24, 2019July 16, 2019 Borderline Personality Disorder, Personality Disorders No Comments Read more

Abandonment is at the Heart of Borderline Personality Disorder

Rage in BPDThe fundamentally foundational epicenter of Borderline Personality Disorder is abandonment. This abandonment experience can be actual or perceived. Abandonment that is perceived is still very real to the person perceiving it. Many people are unaware of the scope

A.J. Mahari February 12, 2010October 4, 2016 BPD General No Comments Read more

BPD: Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde?

Borderline behaviour is often compared to Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde by those who aren’t borderline and experience BPD behaviour from the outside. Is this really a fair and meaningful comparison? What is this comparison trying to illuminate? Is it helpful to non borderlines wanting to better understand BPD?

A.J. Mahari November 20, 2008 Non Borderline No Comments Read more

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