Social Media, like Twitter, Facebook, Youtube, Pinterest, etc, etc, have both positive and negatives in people’s lives. How can you tell what the effects of social media and/or time spent on the internet generally are in your own life? It
Suffering is a Choice Related to Unresolved Abandonment Issues
Many people experience their emotional suffering as something that is outside of them. Something over which they have no control. The fact is that suffering is really a choice. Say what? Before you get angry or think I’m trying to
Be Confident – Affirmation
How to learn to be more confident in yourself and in what is changing in you and around you along with how you cope with stress. Be confident – an affirmation to help you think more about what you need
The Real You – Awakening to Who You Are in Universal Terms
Are you awakening to who you really are? The you, not separate from the universe? The you that is like a ripple in the universe of humanity just as each drop of water is a ripple and a part beloning
Toxic Relational Dynamics – Are you Stuck?
Many people are in toxic relationships and/or are experiencing in one relationship type or another or even perhaps all of their relationships – toxic relational dynamics. This is why it is so important to become more aware of what this
Loneliness and Toxic Relationships
A.J. Mahari, Life, BPD and Toxic Relationship Coach talks about what is at the center of toxic relationship/relational dynamics along with other issues – a fear of being alone and/or an inability to be alone – a profound, primal, loneliness
Feeling All Alone – Borderline Personality Disorder
People diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder often feel all alone. They are often triggered, when relating in various types of relationships and relational dynamics, back to what is their core wound of abandonment. BPD Coach, author, and herself someone who recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder in 1995, A.J. Mahari, talks about how and why people with BPD struggle with feeling all alone – so alone – so often, and what they can do about that. The goal is recovery. You can become aware of the way to find the road to recovery by being fully present in the moment.
Loneliness – Pervasive, Powerful, & Purposeful
Posted by A.J. Mahari on October 19, 2009 Loneliness is, on one level a universal experience. There is a collective experience, to some degree, by each and every living individual of what it means, from time to time, to be
Borderline Personality Disorder – The Inner Child
Each person diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder has the lonelist inner child. Until and unless the inner child is embraced through therapy the borderline continues to live a life split-off from him or her – dissociated from this lonely, needy, inner child that is in tremendous pain. Borderlines need to meet, greet, and learn how to soothe that lonely inner child in order to get on the road to recovery.
Everyone has an inner child. Do those diagnosed with BPD have the loneliest inner children? Often those with BPD abandon and re-abandon their aching and terrified inner children over and over again which in large part is the reason for so much of what is dubbed “borderline behaviour”. I urge borderlines to make the choice to get to know and to free their inner children. It is a vital part of healing.