When a loved one dies, by suicide, or a sudden illness or accident, something especially not expected, grief is usually understood now to be complex and complicated grief. What that means is that people experiencing complex and complicated grief stay
When a Borderline Partner Commits Suicide – 4 Months Since She Took Her Life
After the suicide of my partner, 4 months ago, today, I have experienced intense grief, sleep deprivation, severe stress, conflicting emotions the list of which I could never complete or do justice here. This traumatic loss has left me with
Dissolving Past Pain and Moving Forward in Your Life
Are you stuck in patterns of relating in your adult relationships generally, romantic relationships more specifically that are causing you pain and leaving you experiencing failed relationships? Are you still holding onto past pain? Do you have unresolved childhood
The Pain of Both Sides of Borderline Personality Disorder – My Borderline Mother
I had BPD and I recovered. My mother and father had BPD and they did not recover at all. I know the pain on both sides of BPD.
Steps To Coping With Regret
Life Coach, author, writer/narrartor of Audio Programs, A.J. Mahari, in her “Steps to Coping With …” series draws upon not only her own personal life experience with learning to cope in ways that are effective in creating positive and lasting
Loneliness – Pervasive, Powerful, & Purposeful
Posted by A.J. Mahari on October 19, 2009 Loneliness is, on one level a universal experience. There is a collective experience, to some degree, by each and every living individual of what it means, from time to time, to be
What Is Abandonment?
Abandonment has often been thought of by many to be of a physical nature – as in desertion and neglect or primarily of an emotional nature – as in when a child is not nurtured or given the necessary attention and healthy love to feel safe and secure.
Both of these situations or realities do constitute forms of abandonment. There are other types of abandonment that are often significant in the lives of those who end up diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder.
If one has experienced the most prolific and painful wound of all, the core wound of abandonment without any balance for that experience, any subsequent loss and/or abandonment in life can turn your life upside down. Each and every loss or abandonment is experienced as it happens with the added pain of layers and layers of repressed pain and unresolved grief.
