What is best for you to do if you are in a relationship with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and you are coming to the conclusion the relationship isn’t working? What do you do if you want to end the relationship? Do you need to institute no contact or is there another way? What is kind and what isn’t kind in this circumstance often experienced as a dilemma for relationship partner of someone with BPD – the non borderline?
There is much written about what many refer to as the “low functioning” borderline defined as the type of borderline that doesn’t know how to cope with the ending of relationship – the type of borderline that punishes when he or she experiences loss – the type of borderline who stalks and does anything they can to try to make your life miserable. Are all borderlines the same? Do all borderlines behave this way or make these same choices when a relationship ends? The answer is, No.