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Those who are diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder have at the roots of their insecure attachment a rage that is often the source of so much abusive behaviour. Insecure attachment, one of the major root causes of BPD, leaves those with BPD recreating the ruptured relating they experienced that caused their emotional development to arrest resulting in the lost self – the loss of authentic self that is then supplanted by a false self that has no understanding of healthy or consistent relating.

Those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) are much more likely to be abusive than those in the general population. Family members, loved ones, ex or relationship partners of those with BPD – non borderlines in relationships to or with borderlines often suffer verbal abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, physical abuse, and/or domestic violence.

The propensity for abusiveness in those with BPD is instigated by the narcissistic injury that is at the heart of the core wound of abandonment. This propensity for abusiveness from the roots rage – a rage that stems from the core wound of abandonment in BPD is often heightened when someone with BPD also has either several traits of or full-blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder.


Insecure attachment in Borderline Personality Disorder: Links to rage and abuse