A.J. Mahari’s Borderline Diary – My Borderline Years – Mirror Without Reflection – My borderline mother, my mirror without reflection. My borderline mother, blank face, blank stare – angry. Always so angry. How many more times will you reach out to her only to be abandoned again. Only to be rendered just a little more invisible? How many times? She hurts me. I hate her. She hates me. I love her. I hate her. I need her. I can’t stand this.
In two videos available exclusively only on A.J.’s Mahari’s website Borderline Personality Disorder From The Inside Out Mahari shares her thoughts about her journey in crossing the bridge between having been borderline to being recovered from BPD and the sacred reality of the pain that must be engaged when one has BPD.
Borderline Personality Disorder has at its centre tremendous pain that is protected against through many defense mechanisms that manifest themselves through anger and rage. Author, speaker, and life coach, A.J. Mahari, talks about the main reasons for the anger and rage in and of BPD.
There is a lot of debate about Borderline Personality Disorder. Can Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) be treated effectively? If it can be treated effectively, what does that mean for recovery? What is recovery from BPD? Many new studies now are claiming that BPD can be treated effectively and yet many professionals are still refusing to acknowledge, quantify and/or even begin to explain what BPD recovery really is and means.
Borderline Personality Disorder and the borderline and non borderline quest to understand more about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) along with both sides needing to be understood. Borderlines and non borderlines, emotionally and relationally, live in parallel universes. Trying to achieve a collective and lasting connected understanding is, more often than not, very challenging at best.
Borderline splitting and loved ones understanding – If you are a loved one, family member or relationship partner of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, A.J. Mahari, mental health and life coach, in an audio program talks about Borderline Splitting to help loved ones better understand it and the reality that they really cannot rescue someone with Borderline Personality Disorder.
People diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), for many varying reasons, relate in many codependent ways. Their loved ones are often drawn into the toxic relating of enabling and enmeshment. Loved ones of those with BPD need to be aware of the ways that they can learn to disengage the codependent ways that those with BPD relate to them.
At the heart of the process of recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder is the need to find one’s lost self – an authentic self that has been lost to the core wound of abandonment in BPD. BPD recovery requires first asking the question, Who am I? Secondly, it requires finding the answer to that question.
Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder is possible. Borderline Personality Disorder is treatable. But, is it about the science or is it about the self?
Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder has two main ingredients, gaining more insight about choices made and learning to make new choices, as well as learning how to take personal responsibility. For those with BPD, taking personal responsibility means facing their abandoned pain understanding that continuing to try to avoid that pain will only keep them stuck. This journey from one’s abandoned pain and a victim mentality that doesn’t “emotionally” understand choices made and new choices that need to be made, is the journey From False Self to Authentic Self.
Tough love can be very effective for those with loved ones with Borderline Personality Disorder. It is important to approach tough love in a way that is not polarized or absolute. In part two of her video podcast on the subject of tough love for loved ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder, author, speaker, life coach and strategist, A.J. Mahari, speaking to a group of Loved Ones of those with BPD, talks about the value of tough love and how it was tough love that was at the center of her own recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder 14 years ago.
Many loved ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder struggle with ways to cope and choices and decisions that have to be made. Is tough love an option for loved ones of those with BPD? Why or why not?
Borderline Personality Disorder is thought to be caused by a combination of biological and environmental factors – nature versus nurture. Now scientists are finding that cognitive training can alter brain chemistry. This is what I’ve long since known as I experienced this in my own recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. The good news for those with BPD is that regardless of the degree to which brain chemistry may be altered (yet to really be proven) the fact is that therapy, specifically cognitive based therapy can alter brain chemistry and create the changes required in thinking to recover from Borderline Personality Disorder.
Loved Ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder need more awareness. Author, Life Coach and Strategist, A.J. Mahari, poses a few questions for family members or loved ones of borderlines to think about in video from her BPD Inside Out Video Podcast .
A.J. Mahari introduces her online BPD Awareness Initiative to help educate those seeking more information and understanding about BPD in her Video and Audio Podcasts.
If you are a loved one – a non borderline – with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder in your life, A.J. Mahari, life coach and strategist, a woman who has recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder, in an audio program, talks about borderline splitting and the reality that loved ones, non borderlines, cannot rescue someone with Borderline Personality Disorder.
If you are a loved one – a non borderline – with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder in your life, A.J. Mahari, life coach and strategist, a woman who has recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder, talks about borderline splitting and the reality that loved ones, non borderlines, cannot rescue someone with Borderline Personality Disorder in part 2 of this 4 part series.
A.J. Mahari, author, life coach, a person who recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder, and who had 2 parents with BPD, in a video, talks about the legacy of Borderline Personality Disorder in the life of the adult child of someone with BPD.
A.J. Mahari, in a two part video series, talks about the false self in Borderline Personality Disorder. It is important that those diagnosed with BPD gain more insight, understanding, and awareness into and about this false self in order to get on the road to recovery.
Suicide is really not the answer to the pain of Borderline Personality Disorder. You may have once believed that or it may feel like it is the only answer when you are entrenched in black and white all or nothing thinking.