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The human borderline and the non borderline dilemma. What does that  mean? Why would I phrase this like this you may wonder? I can't count
the number of times I've listened to non borderline clients I life coach or read non borderlines emails where, in
their understandable pain and confusion, family members, loved ones, relationship partners of those with BPD – non
borderlines – make statements that question the reality of those with Borderline Personality Disorder being human or

As much as I can understand and really do have empathy and compassion for those who have been
hurt (as I was myself) by someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), I do not feel that it is at all helpful to
question the reality of anyone with any personality disorder or BPD specifically being human or not.

There can be no understanding of the true nature of
this most puzzling and painful disorder by anyone if they don't
acknowledge the very real and very human struggle that BPD entails.

BPD in all its presentation is about feeling more in the human condition than is actually
healthy for anyone to feel.

There is no doubt that regardless of how much a borderline feels and how very truly human they are
that (most active) borderlines do not have the capacity to feel or actually know the pain they are inflicting
upon others a great deal of the time.  Read More …

© A.J. Mahari 2003 with additions November 22, 2008

A.J. Mahari is a Life Coach who, among other things, specializes in working with those with BPD and non borderlines. A.J. has 5 years experience as a Life Coach and has worked with hundreds of clients from all over the world.

The Human Borderline and The Non Borderline Reality