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The Co-Dependent’s 12 Steps

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A major consequence of unresolved abandonment is codependence. Codependence is very common for many who struggle with issues that they may not recognize stem from unresolved abandonment that see them in unhealthy relationships. Often people with unresolved abandonment issues will encounter a series of dysfunctional, painful, and even toxic relationships. There are obstacles to change that Life Coach A.J. Mahari helps her clients become more aware of and learn to let go of so that they can move forward and end codependent patterns of relating.

The Co-Dependent’s 12 Steps

  • 1. We admitted we were powerless over others – that our lives had become unmanageable.
  • 2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
  • 3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.
  • 4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
  • 5.Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
  • 6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
  • 7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
  • 8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
  • 9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
  • 10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
  • 11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our concious contact with God as we understand God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.
  • 12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other co-dependents, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
  • To read more about each step please visit another website of mine at Soul Self Help and scroll down to the heading: The Twelve Steps Outlined

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    The Co-Dependent’s 12 Steps
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    A.J. Mahari April 14, 2013 Codependence, Unresolved Childhood
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