Is the most relevant question, what is personal development, or is it what is it that isn’t part of personal development? Personal Development is a very wide ranging reality in our lives when we choose to engage it. What does
A.J. Mahari on The Inner Child
Each and every one of us was a child and has an inner child. That’s the good news. The painful reality for too many people is that their inner child is wounded one – separated and isolated from the rest
Dare To Work On The Shame Blocking Your Vulnerability
Vulnerability is a strength – not a weakness. You need to dare greatly in order to work through your shame and emotional pain to clear out that shame from your past and let in the empowering freedom and wholeheartedness of
Borderline personality therapy is scarce, costly
In-patient treatment for borderline personality disorder is scarce, costly Menu Courey, a swimmer on full scholarship at the University of Missouri, had borderline personality disorder and was desperate for help in 2011. The wait-list for free care at the Centre
Running From The Self – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
Are you running from your “self”. Do you know who you are and what you want. Do you feel empowered? Too many people are avoiding the kind of self-awareness and understanding that empower change and I help people in Life
Live Life Questions Through Radical Acceptance – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
Everyone has questions in their lives. Questions that they may not know the answer to, questions they may not even have realized they need the answers to yet. We need to live our way to the answers to life questions
Transform Your Self Talk – Change Your Life
Want and need change of any kind in your life? Begin by becoming more aware of your negative and/or self-critical self talk. Begin a journey of re-framing that negative/critical self-talk into positive affirming self-talk that will transform you in ways
Introspection Helps One Heal, Recover, and Grow From Within – 6 Benefits
Life, with all its challenges, pain, difficulty and paradoxically co-existing beauty and ease is all about the learning experiences. Mistakes are growth opportunities and need not be feared. We have all made mistakes and we will all make more. The more open
DBT Skills Can Help Anyone
Dialectical Behaviour Training, created by Dr. Marsha Linehan and originally for those with Borderline Personality has since been applied very successfully for to loved ones of those with BPD as well as those with NPD and their loved ones. DBT
Shopping as an Emotional Distraction
For all-too-many people with Mental Health Challenges, shopping has become a distraction meant to substitute for self-soothing, help people forget their worries and fears and emotional or physical pain and try to fill a psychological void with material things. This
Social Media, Internet and Real Life Balance
Social Media, like Twitter, Facebook, Youtube, Pinterest, etc, etc, have both positive and negatives in people’s lives. How can you tell what the effects of social media and/or time spent on the internet generally are in your own life? It
People With Borderline Personality and Punishment
People with Borderline Personality often punish others. Firstly, it is important to note that they also punish themselves in the process. However, for those on the other side of someone with Borderline Personality, that’s little comfort, I know. This is
Borderline Personality Social Media Support – It helps!
There are so many chats taking place on Twitter these days. So real-time relevant, caring, informative and helpful. Twitter is in many ways starting to be more relevant than Facebook, I think. Today I just caught the tail end of
I am An Adult-Child of a Borderline Mother
I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). I was treated for BPD. I recovered from BPD. One thing has remained a constant throughout all the years of my life and all of my healing – I am the adult-child of a mother with Borderline Personality Disorder.
The Pain of Both Sides of Borderline Personality Disorder – My Borderline Mother
I had BPD and I recovered. My mother and father had BPD and they did not recover at all. I know the pain on both sides of BPD.
Borderlines and Mind Games?
Do people diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder play mind games? Life coach, BPD Coach and BPD Loved Ones Coach A.J. Mahari examines this stressing that the answer to this question is not black and white. The answer is somewhere in
Where It All Began Again – Excerpt A.J. Mahari BPD Memoir
A.J. Mahari first heard those three words, Borderline Personality Disorder, in the dark ages of “treatment”, in 1975. At a time when most mental health professionals deemed Borderline Personality Disorder untreatable and spared little time in banishing those diagnosed with
Childhood Attachment And Toxic Relationships
Author, Life/BPD/Mental Health Coach, Toxic Relationship Coach and Self Improvement Coach A.J. Mahari talks about early childhood development its impact on how we either learn to attach or fail to learn to attach and the role of attachment styles in
The Dialectic Of Emotions
What is an Emotional Dialectic? Among a myriad of other aspects of what a dialectic is or what dialects are it will suffice as an introduction to day that the answer to this question is that a dialectic is the juxtaposition
