The Suicide Tunnel – Applies to BPD Suicidality Too Feeling Suicidal Right Now? Read This First
BPD Relationships Hypersexuality of BPD Women is The Trap of Sex Addiction In the Trauma Bond For Men
You meet her, the woman with Borderline Personality, she is amazing, things happen quickly. Sex and relating are intense. The Borderline hypersexual woman. Everything is just so great to the point of what comes next, in time, that it you
Key To Recovery After a Borderline or Narcissist
Many disagree as to what an Empath is versus a Codependent. Many psychologists note that empaths have codependency and are codependents. Some will say empaths have codependent tendencies. This debate back and forth really misses the central point. That is,
How a small decision can turn your life around
Do you think that whatever is difficult or beyond difficult in your life first requires some magical answer that will change everything for you? Many people, without realizing it, “think” or feel this way. It is a natural reaction, in
The Wide Ranging Nature of Personal Development
Is the most relevant question, what is personal development, or is it what is it that isn’t part of personal development? Personal Development is a very wide ranging reality in our lives when we choose to engage it. What does
The Hurt, The Shame – The Journey – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
For so many, there is, from birth a primal pain, an insecure attachment at best or no bonding and no attachment to mother at worst. This creates, depending upon the infant to toddler’s experience, varying degrees of an intra-psychic injury,
Shopping as an Emotional Distraction
For all-too-many people with Mental Health Challenges, shopping has become a distraction meant to substitute for self-soothing, help people forget their worries and fears and emotional or physical pain and try to fill a psychological void with material things. This
Childhood Attachment And Toxic Relationships
Author, Life/BPD/Mental Health Coach, Toxic Relationship Coach and Self Improvement Coach A.J. Mahari talks about early childhood development its impact on how we either learn to attach or fail to learn to attach and the role of attachment styles in
Breaking Free of The Borderline Maze – Recovery For BPD Loved Ones
How Non Borderlines can break free from the BPD maze – the emotional rollercoaster of drama, chaos and conflict and why they need to. By: A.J. Mahari © March 2007 Published by Phoenix Rising Publications Price: $35.99 Mahari talks about how
Can You Ever Really “Go Home” Again?
Most people will be familiar with that old saying, “You can never go home again.” You know, go back to your old neighbourhood, or in my case, since my father got transferred many times in my growing up years, you
Action Strategies to Help You Regulate Your Emotions
Many people, for many different reasons that stem from many different life experiences and unresolved childhood issues or trauma over-react often to things said to them, life, stress, inter-personal relational situations, and find it difficult to relate congruently and consistently
Recognizing and Coping with Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic abuse can be the result of any unhealthy or toxic relationship with any personality disordered person those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and other disorders. Those who have NPD perpetrate verbal, emotional, and/or physical abuse
Mother of BPD Daughter coping with bpd splitting by A.J. Mahari BPD Coach
BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, responds to a mother of a daughter with Borderline Personality Disorder about coping with her daughter’s splitting, acting in and acting out and her concern for her grandson along with her own pain. Loved ones of
BPD – In Memory of a Client – Recovery Is Yours – Trust the process
BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, in memory of one of her clients who committed suicide in September 2013, as do far too many with Borderline Personality, talks about recovery and the process and how you need to choose to live long
Who is Responsibile For Your Happiness?
Who is responsible for your happiness? Many people are seeking to find validation, fulfillment, and happiness from outside of themselves. From others or from what they do or what they have materialistically. Just who is responsible for your happiness? Have
It Takes Courage To Be Who You Really Are
We live in a world that values sameness. We live in a world where wars are waged and violent hate and discrimination flourish as the result of the intolerance that exists in the face of difference. It takes courage to
Preoccupy Your Gremlin and Get Unstuck
Most people have hopes and dreams. Most people understand what it will take to get to those dreams. And most people at some point in their lives accept that they probably won’t get there and give up hope. Why? Because
7 Central Principles of Personal Mastery
Principles behind personal and self mastery are actually fundamental concepts that are essential when building relationships – professional, social, interpersonal, and spiritual. The first principle stresses being aware of how you define success. In personal mastery, along with its central
Steps To Coping With Regret
Life Coach, author, writer/narrartor of Audio Programs, A.J. Mahari, in her “Steps to Coping With …” series draws upon not only her own personal life experience with learning to cope in ways that are effective in creating positive and lasting
Why is It We Need Steps To Cope With Life?
Life Coach and Author, A.J. Mahari, poses the question, why is it we need steps to coping with life? Life is difficult. Many do not get the emotional, psychological, and social tools and skills that they need to be on
