Triggers in those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) cause intense emotional dysregulation. Author, BPD and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari sheds a very revealing light on the fact that borderline triggers when faced, instead of avoided, can be gateways to recovery. Borderline triggers are open wounds that seek to help in the healing and recovery process. They can only help you if you let them. They can only help you if you are ready, willing, and able to face the pain that remains unresolved from past abandonment and/or trauma. The very pain that drives the triggered experience of those with BPD.
- The Abandoned Pain of BPD © A.J. Mahari
- The Legacy of Abandonment in BPD © A.J. Mahari
- The Shadows and Echoes of Self – False Self In BPD © A.J. Mahari
- BPD and Rage © A.J. Mahari
When those with BPD are triggered they experience a sudden increase in
distress due to dysregulated emotion. Whether or not the person with
BPD is in touch with, or aware of, his or her actual feelings, he or
she will experience a sharp increase in emotional distress and
discomfort. How that distress and discomfort manifests itself can vary
for each person diagnosed with BPD. Central to this experience,
however, is the desire and feeling of desperate need to get away from
this distress and discomfort by whatever means necessary or whatever
actions will provide an escape from the triggered dysregulated emotions.
In this audio program, A.J. Mahari provides insight into why this escape is destructive beyond the reality that many with BPD seek out self destructive maladaptive ways
of coping when they are triggered. Trying to escape the reality of your
triggers will only keep you firmly trapped in Borderline Personality
Disorder. The more you succeed at escaping the pain of triggered Emotional Dysregulation the more you ensure re-experiencing the same triggers over and over again.
Triggers are not just a borderline experience. What is specific to Borderline Personality Disorder about experiencing triggers, however, is that these triggers produce intense emotional dysregulation, are frequent, and have their roots in the core wound of abandonment and are dissociative in nature.
It is important to note that people who do not have a personality disorder can experience less intense and less frequent emotional triggers that do not cause the kind of split with reality or fragmentation that triggers cause in those with BPD. Why do I mention this? Because many loved ones of those with BPD, non borderlines, can also be experiencing their own triggers – triggers back to unresolved issues from their pasts as well. Sometimes, for some loved ones, the actual manifestation of the borderline's triggered emotions and resulting behaviour can and does trigger the non borderline whether he or she is aware of that or not. If you are a loved one, have you ever thought to yourself that the person with BPD in your life is pulling certain behaviour and/or feelings out of you?
Both those with BPD and their loves ones will benefit from gaining new and increased insight into the healing potential and power of triggers.
A.J. Mahari's Audio Triggers in BPD – Gateways To Recovery that you can read more about that is available at phoenixrisingpublications.ca
© A.J. Mahari, August 8, 2009 – All rights reserved.
A.J. Mahari is a BPD/Mental Health and Life Coach who, among other
things, specializes in working with those with BPD and/or their loved ones. A.J. has 6 years experience as a
BPD/Mental Health and Life Coach and has coached hundreds of clients from all over the world.