Codependents are not narcissists and narcissists – specifically the “pretending” to be “codependent” cover narcissists are not actually codependent. Many people have various differing opinions on this. I can see where some are coming from. However, just because to a
How is a Narcissistic Family Identified – Application to Client Treatment
A Narcissistic Family is identified in a new way for Mental Health Professionals in a book written by Mental Health Professionals. This is so important because when in the trenches with clients with Narcissistic Personality Disorder or several NPD traits,
My Birth to a Narcissistic and Borderline Personality Disordered Mother
When we are born, infants, helpless, totally dependent upon mother, we can’t know that we have, as was in my case, a very personality disordered mother. It starts off very traumatic in life and it just builds from there. This
How is a Narcissistic Family Identified – Application to Client Treatment
A Narcissistic Family is identified in a new way for Mental Health Professionals in a book written by Mental Health Professionals. This is so important because when in the trenches with clients with Narcissistic Personality Disorder or several NPD
A.J. Mahari on The Inner Child
Each and every one of us was a child and has an inner child. That’s the good news. The painful reality for too many people is that their inner child is wounded one – separated and isolated from the rest
Mindful Focus For Just You Relaxation Audio
A Mindful Focus Just For You Relaxation Affirmation Audio is a positive affirming 60 minute audio to help you take a mini-vacation from worry, negative thoughts, and negative core beliefs about yourself that you may be or have being holding
The Hurt, The Shame – The Journey – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
For so many, there is, from birth a primal pain, an insecure attachment at best or no bonding and no attachment to mother at worst. This creates, depending upon the infant to toddler’s experience, varying degrees of an intra-psychic injury,
Introspection Helps One Heal, Recover, and Grow From Within – 6 Benefits
Life, with all its challenges, pain, difficulty and paradoxically co-existing beauty and ease is all about the learning experiences. Mistakes are growth opportunities and need not be feared. We have all made mistakes and we will all make more. The more open
Dissolving Past Pain and Moving Forward in Your Life
Are you stuck in patterns of relating in your adult relationships generally, romantic relationships more specifically that are causing you pain and leaving you experiencing failed relationships? Are you still holding onto past pain? Do you have unresolved childhood
Childhood Attachment And Toxic Relationships
Author, Life/BPD/Mental Health Coach, Toxic Relationship Coach and Self Improvement Coach A.J. Mahari talks about early childhood development its impact on how we either learn to attach or fail to learn to attach and the role of attachment styles in
What You Focus on is What You will Experience
It might sound obvious to say that what you focus on will be what you experience. The point is, however, that so many people are focused on their experience, mainly, negative experience and/or negative feelings in their lives and confused
Suffering is a Choice Related to Unresolved Abandonment Issues
Many people experience their emotional suffering as something that is outside of them. Something over which they have no control. The fact is that suffering is really a choice. Say what? Before you get angry or think I’m trying to
Suffering is a Choice Related to Unresolved Abandonment Issues
Many people experience their emotional suffering as something that is outside of them. Something over which they have no control. The fact is that suffering is really a choice. Say what? Before you get angry or think I’m trying to
Unresolved Abandonment and Negative Expectations – Break Free
Life Coach and author, A.J. Mahari, has many coaching clients who are dealing with varying levels of consequences, in their own individual lives and life situations, that are all related to unresolved abandonment issues. Unresolved childhood abandonment issues are often
Feeling All Alone – Borderline Personality Disorder
People diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder often feel all alone. They are often triggered, when relating in various types of relationships and relational dynamics, back to what is their core wound of abandonment. BPD Coach, author, and herself someone who recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder in 1995, A.J. Mahari, talks about how and why people with BPD struggle with feeling all alone – so alone – so often, and what they can do about that. The goal is recovery. You can become aware of the way to find the road to recovery by being fully present in the moment.
Unresolved Abandonment and Negative Expectations – Break Free
Life Coach and author, A.J. Mahari, has many coaching clients who are dealing with varying degrees of consequences, in their own individual lives and life situations, that are all related to unresolved abandonment issues. Does everyone who has unresolved abandonment
Accepting The Pain of Transformation
Transformation is a process of change in nature and/or character, as well as self understanding and reclaiming your authentic self, or more of your authentic self. Transformation is about you defining you and not anyone else and not letting society’s
Mental Illness and The Brain – What’s Wrong with Psychiatry?
Mental Illness and The Brain – What’s Wrong with Psychiatry? Mental illness – is it biological or isn’t? What do you think? I guess I’m a rebel at heart, someone who thinks outside of the box. I know in my own experience, having recovered 15 years from Borderline Personality Disorder, that along the way, on my journey, I had a psychiatrist tell me I wouldn’t get better until they developed some pill – I didn’t believe him. He wasn’t correct. I fired him on the spot after that comment. That was 1987. That was before this notion now forwarded that everything mental illness is a “brain disorder”. Professional in psychiatry are speaking out against the “status quo” of mental illness as a “brain disorder”.
Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life – End Negative Thought Patterns
Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life – 19 Coaching Exercises To Help You Change Negative Thought Patterns by Life Coach, A.J. Mahari, is a 102 page Ebook chalk full of information and 19 coaching exercises to help you change negative thinking into positive thinking. This Ebook stresses how much you will benefit from focusing postively on the here-and-now so that the decisions you are making today will help you create a positive, successful and productive future. And this Ebook doesn’t just tell you that, it provides you with practical exercises that will show you how to create positive change and how to not only stop focusing on the negative, stop worrying, but also stop feeling so stressed and stop ruminating on intrusive, negative, and unwanted thoughts. Not everyone can afford Life Coaching. This Ebook gives you exercises to do that I use with many of my clients and now you too can get this help and at a fraction of the price.
Abandonment Negativity Impacts Hope in BPD
In her latest Borderline Personality Disorder Inside Out podcast episode, Life and BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari talks about what she calls the core wound of abandonment and the negative impact that creates in the lives of those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). People with BPD need to find hope from the polarized negativity of BPD. Polarized negativity that has its roots in unresolved abandonment. Abandonment negativity impacts hope for those who have BPD and for their loved ones.
