Those who are diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder have at the roots of their insecure attachment a rage that is often the source of so much abusive behaviour. Insecure attachment, one of the major root causes of BPD, leaves those with BPD recreating the ruptured relating they experienced that caused their emotional development to arrest resulting in the lost self – the loss of authentic self that is then supplanted by a false self that has no understanding of healthy or consistent relating.
A.J. Mahari, author, life coach, a person who recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder, and who had 2 parents with BPD, in a video, talks about the legacy of Borderline Personality Disorder in the life of the adult child of someone with BPD.
In her BPD Audio Podcast, A.J. Mahari talks about the experience of the adult-child of the borderline mother and her own experience with her own mother, who has Borderline Personality Disorder. The legacy of having a mother with Borderline Personality Disorder is often centered around a very painful lack of nurture along with insecure attachment and abandonment.
Borderline Personality Disorder is a very painful mental illness to live with for those who are diagnosed with it as well as family members, loved ones, and relationship partners. In her latest BPD Audio Podcast, A.J. Mahari talks about the pain of BPD.
The human borderline and the non borderline dilemma. What does that mean? Why would I phrase this like this you may wonder? I can’t count the number of times I’ve listened to non borderline clients I life coach or read non borderlines emails where, in their understandable pain and confusion, family members, loved ones, relationship partners of those with BPD – non borderlines – make statements that question the reality of those with Borderline Personality Disorder being human or not.
Is intimacy possible with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? Can you really create a bond with someone with BPD? Family members and relationship partners of those with BPD as well as friends often find out that those with BPD are not capable of achieving or sustaining a healthy bond.
Borderline Personality Disorder in a mother has significant, lasting, and impacting effects on her children. The effects of those who are now the adult children of a borderline mother seriously impact their relationships throughout childhood and into adulthood.
Family members, loved ones, ex or relationship partners of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder experience what I call a Puzzle and Mystery of Hope On the Other Side of BPD. There are many faces to hope for those who are non borderlines. This audio program includes a Non Borderline Meditation/Relaxation – Finding Emotional Peace.
Borderline Personality Disorder and evil? Are those diagnosed with BPD actually evil? Why is that so many people, even non borderline communities on the web want to forward this concept? To represent someone else as evil or diabolic may well say more about the person judging than the person deemed to be evil or diabolic.
Abandonment trauma, regardless of the cause or causes of Borderline Personality Disorder is the most central issue that borderlines grapple with, sometimes on a daily basis.
People with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) often are not consciously aware of it but they want to be rescued and they want you – the family member, the loved one, the relationship partner – the non borderline – to rescue them.
Adult-children of a parent or parents with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) are often trapped in very painful, dysfunctional, and toxic relationship with their borderline parent(s). What keeps adult-children trapped in the unhealthy, unrewarding, and toxic relationship is the need for validation that could bring about closure to the gaping wound of abandonment.
Some people have BPD in the family whereas I came from a family of BPD. Children do learn what they live. The effects of Borderline Personality Disorder on family members is far-reaching and profound.